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writes:Broke up with my ex bf over 6 months ago (we were together 5 years) because we had different lifestyles and he wasn't there for me when I needed him to be. I know breaking up was the right choice but I miss him so much now. He's haunting my thoughts and it's like I only remember the good memories and I'm even thinking I lost my soulmate. I know it can take some time getting over someone but I didn't expect coming to the point where I'm thinking I lost my soulmate...
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (1 September 2013):
 I believe that if your ex b/f was your soul mate then he would have been there for you when you needed him.
If he was your soul mate you would still be together.
You admit that you're looking back and only seeing the good, and that's lovely that you have such great memories to move forward with and have been able to move past the bad stuff. This does not mean that you should get back together or that you made a mistake.
Things weren't right between you and you moved on. I think you're ready for a new relationship and are feeling lonely right now.
Get out and have fun with friends, open up the doors of possibility for a new relationship.
AB x
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (1 September 2013):
 It's a common assumption that it is possible to have a soul mate but not be in a relationship with them. Some people even find a soul mate with someone of the same sex and it has nothing to do with sex or romance.
Its obvious that your relationship with this man had issues bad enough to break the bond, soul mate or not, he wasn't the right person to be with as a life partner.
You are probably feeling lonely and lamenting the good times...we all do it at some point and the mind can paint quite a rosy picture, pushing all reality out of sight.
Break up DO take some getting over, you are right about that, and in times of aloneness, strong feelings surface and can torment us. Keep busy in these times, work an extra shift or spend time with friends...or date someone new, even if it's just a meet and greet.
There will be times when you miss him and there will be times when you won't and that will be entirely dependant of what you are doing and the amount of time passed.
Stay strong, accept the feelings as mindful but not practical or viable, allow them to pass and keep moving foward in positive ways. Hopefully you will feel better soon xx
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