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writes:No boys fancy me and when I do go out with a boy they never want to do anything......I don't want to have sex but a kiss every once in a while would be nice. I am 12 and a tomboy, do you think this is why boys never want to do anything with me because they think I don't have a heart? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2005): I don't think they don't like you because your a tomboy.they just don't want to do things because there nervous.I know well because i'm a tomboy as well.I like boys and I don't know if they like me.Great question!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2005): Guys can be assholes at times. Just give it some time. Look for a guy who loves you for who you are & has a heart!
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reader, lil-haz +, writes (27 April 2005):
 Hi, This is not because you are a tom-boy. To tell you the truth, boys like tom-boys far better then giggly girls. lol. Be proud of what you have and you can have fun being single as well as being in a realationship, but the right time will come when you find Mr. Right, and you will discover new experiences that you will be nervous about when you are older, so enjoy being single. xxx :)
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (26 April 2005):
 You are still pretty young... You'll hate me for this but it's true: Just concentrate on having fun as a kid and leave dating/kissing/holding hands until you're 16+. Seriously.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (26 April 2005):
 There are probably a couple of factors at work here. The most important one is that you're 12, and so the boys you're going out with are probably 12 or so, too.That's awfully young to be going out at all and - judging by the questions this website gets - boys that age either aren't ready to start kissing, or they don't know how. (To be fair, a lot of girls that age are the same.)So at least part of the reason is that, although 12-year-old boys might enjoy your company, they don't have the faintest notion what to do about the kissing question. They feel uncertain about it, they don't know how to do it and most of all, they don't know how to get started with it.The other issue may be that they see you more as a "comfortable friend" they can have fun with, than a romantic partner. That would be because you are a tomboy. In at least one way, that's a good thing, because the boys you are going out with are actually interested in YOU, not just in trying to have a grope they can giggle about with their mates later.You're the only one who can make the descision about whether kissing boys is more important to you than dressing and acting the way that you're most comfortable. (I know that I'd choose being comfortable, but I'm not 12 years old.) I can promise you that, in a couple of years, this will all blow over. Boys will be more confident at kissing girls, in general - and you'll have decided whether you want to continue as you are, or go the more traditional route of dresses and makeup and attracting their attentions that way.In the meantime, try not to judge your 12-y-o dates too harshly. Being a boy doesn't mean that you have some magical knowledge of how to kiss girls. Especially at 12! The truth is, they're scared to death. If you feel so inclined, you can take the initiative yourself and lean in close and give him a quick kiss, see where it leads. But if not, just enjoy the fact that the boys want to go out with you and that they seek out your company. That's a rare compliment!Good luck, hon.
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