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writes:Hello there!I'm visiting my LDR for the first time in a few months. Recently, he's gotten on this acne medication called Accutane, and after asking him why, he told me that he was worried that I might not like what I see. I reassured him that no matter what, it won't change how I feel about him.He's a month or so in his medication and plans to continue for another two months until all of his acne is gone for when I get there.The problem is, the Accutane has made him so moody and irritable and he's always tired! He goes to bed around 7-10 now, which is just when I get home school nowadays (3 hour difference, and I'm involved with after school activities)and when I make a small joke, he'll dish out a snide remark or sound really bitter!After a few minutes, he apologizes profusely and tells me that he loves me.His ups are downs are a bit out of control. D: Any advice on how to deal with this crabbiness?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 Btw, the medication takes about two months to start working, and after that you need to continue with it for another 4-6 months before it is gone completely, if even then. So if he quits after only 3-4 months the acne will come back and he will just have to start on another round of treatment.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (27 April 2011):
Are you sure it is because of the medication? How long have you known him to be sure this isn't just a part of who he is? Coincidentally I am on the exact same medication myself at the moment, although I know it as Isotretionoin (it's just another name, same medication). Moodyness and being irritable is not a side-effect of the medication!! I've been on it now for 3 months, and the only side effects I've had is dry skin. Although I have been down with the cold lately, perhaps a lowered immune system can be linked to the medicine, but it has also been winter and people normally get colds then.
I think your man is just cranky by his own doing, and that it has nothing at all to do with the medication. You can read up on the side effects yourself if you want. I have spoken to my doctor about side-effects as well both times that I have been to see my doctor for check-ups. Depression is written as a side-effect, but that is with those who already were depressed before they started the medication! It's not something you "get" once you start the medication.
This means your boyfriend had these traits before he started the medication, and my best bet is that you just haven't seen this side of him until now. Don't make excuses for him. If he can't act proper and blames the medication he must either not talk to while on it, or quit it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): Hmm... well, him being aware of what's causing it was a good first step. He should choose to take better control of his attitude though. If the side effects of the medicine are really so strong that he can't control it, maybe you can wait until the 2 more months are over before visiting him.
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