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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together three years. We left home two years ago to travel and work abroad. I ended up getting a permenant job in the country we are now in and I love it. Unfortunately my boyfriend has never settled and hates it and wants to return home.So my dilemma is whether I should go with him, let him go without me in the hope he will change his mind after a few months back home and come back to me?He is very unhappy here, has not found a job he likes and really misses his family and friends. Whilst I'm the opposite,- love my job and enjoy life here.To complicate things I became ill a few months ago, so I may struggle to get another visa when it comes up for renewal in a few months, but then my love of life here makes me wonder if it is worth trying?! We have a good relationship and I love him very much and he was very good to me when I was unwell. Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 May 2010):
It comes down to a decision with a choice. Just one. You can't have both here. Either you go back with him, and hope that your love works out and that you will never resent him for taking you away from your lovely job and the place you love. Or you end it with him, try to stay in the country and love your dream. Personally, though it sounds harsh to your boyfriend, I think you're better following your dream. Other men will come along. You're a smart woman and I'm sure you'll meet the right guy. But another life won't come along, and you don't want to end your dream only to end up with a man you may really come to resent.
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