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writes:Hi, i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years we both 21 and he said he wanted to marry me and i would love that too. One day he said to me if you give birth to my kids you will be loved more, what did he mean, does it mean his love for me is on a level, that it will increase when i give birth for him?? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 You should ask him really, only he knows. Just say "hun, the thing you said the other day, I have been thinking about it. What did you really mean?"
I'm thinking this is a case of him lacking better words to explain himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): I think it means he already really loves you, and is imagining that having kids with you will bring a whole new dimension of love between you. It doesn't mean he loves you less now or that anything is missing now. I think he loves you very much and really wants to have a family with you, like dirtball said. He seems very excited to have a future with kids with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all the help, I was excited abt da statement but it just got me thinking a lil bit, lol
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 Why get so worried about hypotheticals?
Does it means he loves you less now? Well, technically if he said "I will love you more after you give birth to our children," then yes. It means he loves you less now than he will at that time. Really though, that statement is rather stupid in my opinion. Love isn't really contingent upon anything (at least it shouldn't be). He may feel more connected to you, more involved with you, a bigger part of your life, etc. But more in love?
Don't fret about this. It will make problems where there don't need to be any. Take it as his excitement about having a life with you and starting a family together. That's a good thing if you want that too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf he says, he meant love from him, does it mean he loves me any less now coz am not yet the mother of his kids?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (28 April 2011):
To me, it sounds like he wants a family with you. It's possible that he meant that more love would be coming from him, or perhaps he was referring to your children giving you love.
Honestly, your best bet is to ask HIM what he meant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): Did he say "you will be loved more", or "I will love you more"? Did you ask him what he meant? Maybe he just believes the bond will be even stronger when you've taken that big, important step. I wouldn't read anything negative into it. Just ask him! :)
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