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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI am with my bf for 3 years and for past 2 months he is crashing up in his mothers place as he needs to sort out few things there.He owes me some money and I was in some trouble financially and while talking to him yesterday, told him abt my financial problems but I didn't ask him for money, but after we had that conversation he is not even picking up his call or returning my call back or replying to my texts. I am not even sure why he is behaving this way, for the past 2 months he used to call me every single day without fail.What should i do now, please help me.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (23 June 2013):
Hi there. I guess it really depends on how much money we are talking about here.
When you said you lent him some money, are you talking about hundreds or thousands of dollars?
Or is it something like $50 or less?
If you know where his mother lives, perhaps you could pay him a visit there.
Like, just call there unannounced, and ask to see him.
Or else, maybe you could go to his workplace, and go and see him there.
Say, at about the time he goes to lunch.
Another idea, if you don't want to do either of the above, you could write him a letter, explaining that you need the money back and that you could come to some agreement about how he pays you back.
For instance, just say he borrowed $1,000 from you, the agreement could be that he pays you between $50 and $100 every week, until paid out in full.
It would then take him between 10 and 20 weeks to pay out the debt to you in full.
In the meantime though, for your own immediate debt, could you borrow from your parents - and pay them back over a few weeks?
This is assuming you live close to them, and that you have a good relationship with them.
Because your own debt needs to be settled BEFORE you go about getting your money back from your boyfriend.
Just in case you incur further charges because it is overdue in payment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2013): "I am not even sure why he is behaving this way"
He's avoiding you because he knows you'll keep asking him for the money he owes you and he either unable or unwilling to pay you back, very possibly because he no longer considers himself your boyfriend.
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