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writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for quite a while. (4 years) We've had our ups and downs like any other relationship however I feel like we rarely do anything anymore. He never takes me out. He never makes plans for us to go out or do anything. He just always comes over or something and it's always the same old. At the beginning he would make a bit more effort, like he would make me romanitc dinners and stuff but now it's just nothing. I understand that he's short on money right now and he has alot of loans and stuff to pay off but I dont think he needs to spend a lot to do something nice for me. I'm totally not like one of those girls who needs to always go out, i'd be fine with him just taking me somewhere once in a while, but he never does. He does have a job and so do I. I actually do things to take HIM out when I really really cant afford it at all sometimes.I brought it up to his attention last night in a text because he was sleeping and I told him how I felt. In the morning he texted me it seemed good until 30 minutes after his normal text he said he needs a break because he is just so busy and he needs time alone. He also said he has to think things over and just relax because he has alot on his plate.We went on a "break" before but that lasted like 1 day. We truely love eachother and I always been there for him. What should I do? Am I overreacting? PS- i havent texted him back because I am to upset. please help!!!Someone help!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, garcypher  +, writes (29 March 2011):
He is making the same mistake I did in a relationship. He has become complacent and not realising how important it is to work on relationship no matter how long you been together. Like me he will regret it when it is too late unless you make him see this.
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (29 March 2011):
 I would take him seriously. The last thing you want to be is another stress on a partner's full plate. Yes, you deserve the effort, but if he is panicked and stressed, he can't really be expected to be on his top charm. Another thing is that the relationship may have fizzled. You guys are past the "honeymoon" stage, so now you're having to find what exactly is the glue of your relationship. It could be, painful as this may be, that there isn't enough glue and you two should move on. Especially since you guys are so young. After the break is over, should you two decide to stay together, I would suggest finding some free things to do like bike rides, walks, hiking, going to parks, etc. Then, you guys will have things to do together, and you'll have exercise to help relieve stress. Best of Luck
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