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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend met up with his ex without telling me and the only reason I found out is because I had a gut feeling and asked him a month later and he can't lie. It's been almost a year since and we're still together. And I still kinda don't feel I have closure on it. I still wonder why he did it and why he didn't think about my feelings. Please help me. I feel rotten.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 October 2010):
Go back to him and talk to him again. Tell him that even after a year, you're still feeling very vulnerable about it and need reassurance. The truth is, only he can give you any kind of closure (if he chooses to talk about it)
As for meeting, there are a few reasons. It could have just been a friendly thing, he could have needed to say something, perhaps she needed to talk to him about something. There are a lot of reasons, hence why you need to go back to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): I am in a similar situation. I have read some of my husbands messages on his social network from his female friend and it only proves to me that he ignored me when I asked him to end his relationship with her. I suppose I have no right to give you advice as I do not follow my own but if I had more will power and self esteem I would leave him. No boyfriend or husband should be going behind your back to meet up with anyone especially another woman. Try showing him how you feel by going out with your friends (particularly male). This is so he can see that your life is not all about him, if he feels that is is it will only be easier for him to do things like that to you without fear of you leaving him. I really hope that you can find the strength to deal with this situation and tell your boyfriend how you still feel. He needs to understand and if he doesn't, grab the strength to overcome your feelings. There is someone for you who will make you feel happy in every way don't be afraid to keep looking.
From my heart I wish you the best.
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