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writes:Hi there,My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. We love each other very much but very soon he's going to have to go away to college which is very far from where I am. I'm paranoid he's going to cheat on me because I have very low self esteem and I don't trust him. He constantly promises to me that I'll always be able to contact him and he won't go out to parties (he's not the type who likes parties anyway) and he won't talk to any other girls, he won't hang out with friends etc, but I don't want him to have to be so restricted. I want him to be able to go out and have fun and make new friends because he doesn't have many friends in the first place since he's very picky about company. However, I know that if he does do this I'll get worried to no end that he's going to find someone else and cheat on me with them. I tell him that I want to break up before he goes to college because I don't want to have to live my life worrying and stressing about it. Not only that, I don't want it to affect him because I'll be moody and will act strange which will cause him to worry etc. If he did cheat on me then at least I wouldn't have to suffer that, but if he didn't and we stayed together I'd still have to go through a lot of stress every day. I really don't know what to do. I don't want to be selfish but it's really hard. I have other things going on in my life that stress me out, so I don't want to stress even more with this put on top.Any thoughts/opinions would be greatly appreciated. I've talked about all this with him many times but I would like the opinion of other people too.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): You're in a similar situation to myself, although I have cheated in the past which makes my insecurity a lot more hypocritical. My boyfriend also is moving away in the next few months, and I don't know how to deal with it. I'm in fact starting to worry myself, and wondering if I'm becoming to needy. If you give him his on space he will appreciate you a lot more.
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reader, josephy  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 if you don't trust each other, you shall not be together. Relationships should build up on trust otherwise is will fall down.
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reader, josephy +, writes (27 March 2011):
if you don't trust each other, you shall not be together.Relationships should build up on trust otherwise is will fall down.
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reader, xXSunfireXx  +, writes (27 March 2011):
Your just gonna have to trust him. He dosen't seem like the cheating tpe anyway. Just call him every night and talk about what he did that day if you get suspicous question him further about the people he was with and so on.
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