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*misshayleyx
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for eight months. I feel as if I give our relationship my all but he doesn't give anything. I feel like Im not appreciated. We spend a lot of time together and fight, but when we are apart all i want to be is with him. (Cant figure out why.) He said I love you first but now he says he shouldnt have to say it. We also rarely have sex because he is always preoccupied or something. I think he still have feeling for his ex and i have many reasons for thinking that. (not getting into that now.) How can I make him realize who he has. I know Im a great girlfriend, Im just sick of getting hurt.
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reader, xmisshayleyx +, writes (27 September 2010):
xmisshayleyx is verified as being by the original poster of the question^ This is great advice, thank you. Its hard to get away like you said because he lives in my basement with me. Not normal, but hey. I feel like if i stray too far he will find intrest in someone else. thats how his last relationship ended he liked me and broke up with her, i dont want that to happen. Plus i feel like he tries to make me jealous on purpose or up set sometimes. I want him to realize all that i do and give up for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): Hi!
You have become emotionally attached to him and used to the attention and when it goes away you do not like it. Its great to be attached. However, it sounds like youre depending on him. Do you feel not happy if he's not around? Do you think about him constantly? This could be unhealthy but also maybe a good chance for you to develop a bit more independence. Independence to me shows confidence in a woman in who she is and can manage her own and is also a sign of great maturity. Join a gym, get your girliez together for a nite, develop some sort of hobby. Heck, I used to go to clubs to study trance djs and id go alone usually (women would turn me down lol)...now, had I depended on company, I may not have had the chance to develop my hobby, carry it out, and make my radioshow (hoping to spread to another site here soon). Youre young, develop yourself a bit more, it'll help you feel good and when youre with your BF it'll be like an added bonus that he's around you cause you'll feel great in who you are. Best wishes :)
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