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writes:Ok i started seeing this guy about late november and in december I tried to give him a blow job (doing what i've always done in previous relationships which never had any problems to say in the least!). However after about ten minutes of nothing happening he just told me "this isn't going to work" and made me stop! I was so embarrassed! Now we have been going out for almost three months and all we do is about my pleasure (we're both virgins by the way) but I want to pleasure him however i'm too embarrassed and worried that he'll reject me again. How do i bring it up again or do you reckon I should just go for it and try it again? :confused:
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 See, sex is action. And, it is action means it has most definite goal and most definite ideas also. Your boy friend will never give you any ideas, as how to perform it because he himself is in confusion about what he want? This is not pertain exclusively to your boy friend, but it is for almost all, because we are little or more intellectual being, and being intellectual we all need systematic learning in all areas of life, including sex { required more learning]
Generally people learn about sex from correcting their mistake, or correcting their expectation, but this is not a good method of learning. It will take all life in learning, and people will find that there is no time for living. Then they will make random effort to satisfied their desire, and found troubled relationship, and also life.
Well, my suggestion is this, which nowadays I make to every questioners, I choose to answer. Start to learn about TANTRA....IT IS SCIENCE AND ART OF SEX AND LOVE, BUT MORE OF UNITY OF SEX AND LOVE.
I myself is also on the way to publish articles on the subject, at present there are two on board, and third is under preparations. It will be a long long series. I advise you to read other authors also on the subject. I am always here to clear any doubt on the subject. I live 33 years with studying this subject, and wanted to see it work amongst people of this site.
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reader, Ravenxx91 +, writes (1 February 2010):
 To be blunty honest, if thats what you want to do ask him what he likes. If he goes shy just start working towards it and doing it. Then encourage him to guide you and tell you what he wants, it might work from there on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): I've had different responses from different women when giving them oral. My wife and another would have intense orgasms, while I couldn't get another woman to orgasm at all, no matter how hard I tried.
Different guys have different sensitivities in their penises and your current boyfriend might not be as sensitive as the others were. He might have also just not been sensitive enough that particular day. If he masturbated too soon before he was with you then that would also explain it.
Try again and discuss it with him. Also look at the hints on this site about giving a blow job.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/pm_fellatio.shtml
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): A technique that might work for one guy might not work on someone else. Sometimes I have to change position and I can't get comfortable. As for your being a virgin. Did you tell him you a virgin but leave out the part where you have given other guys blow jobs? If you did that's not cool. If the guy cares about you he deserves to know the truth. I hope that you don't end up marrying someone and confess the truth after twenty years of marriage. Sex in a relationship is centered around honesty and communication. The beginning of a relationship is the best time to be honest with the person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): Allso maybe next time you try it, why don't you pretend that you are an italian teacher, put on sum azurro make up, sorry i mean AZZURRO and attract him with your strict grammar lessons ending up with you and him having a one on one session Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): well from a guys point of view he;d want you to try it again and also you should learn technics from other woman. ive had bj before an from my point of view your toung is a guys best friend. so just brush up on technics for him. hope thigs go well
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): It seems if you two have been seeing eachother for a while, there is some level of comfort and trust. I would suggest talking to him about it, and seeing what he has to say. All guys are different, and stimulated different ways. In fact, some don't even enjoy oral sex. See what your man has to say before eliminating the idea completely.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 When you two are in the mood get him to start directing what he wants you to do. All guys like different things and it will take you forever to figure him out if he doesn't help you along. It is a very good aspect of the relationship to be able to communicate to each other, especially during any thing sexual.
Now he might not want to talk about it right away because there may be some bad experience that he has had and it has nothing to do with you. Either way don't force it but keep a steady pressure on him to talk to you.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): Ask for written instructions? That's what I did for my ex, and she started doing it like a pornstar lol.
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