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writes:Back in 2006 I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex girlfriend of 2 years. It was stupid, and I wasn't focused. (I was high). Since that incident I vowed that I would stay true to him and our relationship. He "forgave" me and I have kept my promise. It is now 2009, and I have been going thru this crazy up and down battle of accusations, mood swings, and some serious questioning. I dealt with it for the 1st year, because I know it was my fault. But now it's going on 3 years and it's becoming very overwhelming for me. I love him sooo much, I know I messed up but I don't know if I should stay or walk. I'm tired of being a prisoner, I don't hang out with friends or my cousins, I don't leave the house unless he's here, I have to swear like 5 times a day that I'm not doing anything and then he goes thru my phone and checks everything. I can't lie he was a good dude b4 I told him what I did. Should I just walk and take the loss?? Idk!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow, 2 different point of views. I thank u both so much for answering my question. I have some serious thinkin to do because I know it was me that jacked this whole relationship up. Damn I feel bad. Thanks guys.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (7 February 2009):
 You sound miserable in this relationship, and although as you admit you were in the wrong, he took you back and I assume said he forgave you.
My advise: get out of the relationship, he has not forgiven you therefore the trust will never come back, and things will stay just the way they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): You did wrong. You admitted that to yourself and him.You have to stop using the HIGH excuse as a crutch. High or not, you still had the power to say no, but something drove you forward, something made you forget all that you were risking for a brief moment of sexual pleasure.But you confessed and sought forgiveness, and I believe your remorse and repentence was genuine, and that you trully feel sorry for what you did.In that case it is wrong for himn to say he forgives you and then use those events as a weapon to beat you with when it suits him smply because he hasnt trully dealt with the aftermath of those events and the emotional effects it had on him.The trust issues are his now. If you are sincere about how you have not doen something like that again, then it is terribly unfair on both of you if you are willing to work through what happened and he clearly isn't.My advice is to seek marriage counselling, for his sake as much as yours.You've both been through too much to just let it all die because one of you can;t find a healthy way of dealing with the pain and hurt.Flynn 24
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