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*iara08B
writes:So I'm 17, bisexual, and a very open person sexually. When I say that I mean when I have partner or potential partner, I don't play those mind games most girls my age (that I know) seem to play about having sex. I lay all the cards out on the table. I let it be known what kind of things I like. Now, I know the term "freak" is used a lot these days with people my age. I've always heard that guys WANT a freak. Isn't that what they say? They want a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets? That description fits me perfectly. But I've had some encounters recently in which the guy basically says they think i'm too much of a freak for them and they don't think they can handle me! I never knew it was possible to be too much of a freak, which I really don't think I am. What's up with this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Kiara08B +, writes (29 January 2009):
Kiara08B is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks satindesire, that was actually very helpful. I want to be clear that I am NOT AT ALL DEMANDING with what I want or like, but when the subject comes up, and it always does one way or another (even with guy friends; they like talking about what they like and end up asking the girls around them) I am completely honest about it because it's just not something I'm shy about. But your right, I guess it's something that should be built up to; even if they're askin for it!
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reader, Kepi  +, writes (28 January 2009):
 Nothing wrong with it, but maybe you are a little too demanding or you come on too strong? I mean, do you gradually let your feelings/desires etc out, or is it a case of BAM where in bed (for the first time?) and "here is how its gonna be...." you understand?Guys like to be in control and although its good for partners to express their wishes, well, maybe a little diplomacy is required. As for being too much of a freak, well, not everyone likes the same thing, (again, a good reason to take it a bit slower in the 'demands' department) so u gotta be comfortable with a partner more importantly the parters gotta be comfortable with you before you start expressing new desires.
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