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*Jayy16
writes:My Boyfriend is 19 and im 16, he keeps hinting about sex, but im too scared, as i am a virgin and im scared it will hurt and also im body consious so that doesnt help either, any suggestions on anything ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): If you are not ready tell him that u don't want to don't let no one presser u into doing anything u don't want to. Belive me i am in the same situation u are in but i am yunger than u i am 13. Just say no not yet
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): You be U. Don't feel scared. Be confident. Tell him you are not ready and that you won't be doing anything that you are not at ease with. If he pressures you, you now know that he wasn't really into you but just wanted to get into you.
There re better boys out there. And there are lots. When you're ready you will know and will want it for you.
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reader, Alll_American_Girl  +, writes (12 June 2009):
Your only 16 i think u should wait until your married to have sex that way your wedding night can be specail but it's your descion.
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reader, Lildude7022 +, writes (12 June 2009):
hmm..well if ur not ready dont do it then..sumtime people regit loseing there virgnty...im still a virgin..n im 15teen..if ur scared talk 2 hi b4 u start jumping in conclusions n ur mind..ur body well im not a gurl..so yea..my advise is enternet..thats sumtime wer i get my ansers or a family doctor..but u r loseing ur vrigny n a young age..n sumtimes guy go 4 the p**** n just quit it..be sure 2 talk 2 him..talk 2 him..1st bout it..
Laters...wishin u the best luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): If you aren't sure, wait! If he really cares about you he'll be fine with it. Mine, when I was your age, waited 4 years, one of my male friends waited 7 for the girl he was dating. A guy who cares about YOU will wait until YOU are 100% sure and ready.
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reader, HTID +, writes (12 June 2009):
Hello :) i lost my virginity very young at 14 but dont regret it at all as it was with a boy i was in a very long relationship with and we have just recently ended and i am now 16 very soon. I too was scared and i have suffered with bulimia since i was 11 so i was very body concious too. But i knew that my boyfriend at the time was a good person who wouldn't judge me, it hurt me a bit in the middle of sex and afterwards. I didn't bleed but i think that's because i used tampons on the very rare occasion of my periods. My boyfriend was a good person and hinted it to me but knew that it was only going to happen on my say so and if your boyfriend is any way decent he'd understand. If you don't want to do anything don't do it. Have u done anything else sexual??? Provate mail me if you want xx
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reader, TheNerd +, writes (12 June 2009):
If you don't want to have sex, you don't want to have sex. End of story.But if you would like to try it out, and are simply nervous about what might go wrong, then here is some advice. First, don't rely on him to have birth control. Go to the store and buy some condoms, and make him wear them. If he says they're the wrong kind, tell him that you'll gladly buy the correct kind.Second, take it slow. If you let yourself get into the moment, you will be more attuned to your body's desires and less likely to hurt yourself. Have him give you oral sex before he enters you - that helps a lot!Third, don't feel like your virginity is worth something special or that you've "lost" some part of you if you are no longer a virgin. What is most important is if you are enjoying yourself and if he is treating you how you'd like to be treated. Most of all - just have fun!
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