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writes:We've only been together for a week, he told me he cheated on his ex before but he is not like that anymore (explained to me why he told me that so that if later I found out how he was before I would think he had been lying to me). He said he is serious wanting to be with me...I have some trust issues so I'm sensitive to things, he got tired of it and said we should be friends again for now until I know him better as a person then we could start again then. I don't know if he really meant what he said or he is just letting me off easily...since we broke up I thought I wasn't going to hear from him but everyday I'll get a text from him about an hr into my work day, he'll ask me how's work, how I'm doing, if work is busy, where I'm going for lunch, etc. then in between him going to work and I'm getting off work we don't really talk but then later after a few hrs he'll text me again what I'm doing, if I'm home yet...I don't reply him right away maybe about 10-20min later..and I try to keep it as short as possible not asking him anything. I'm not sure if I should be even replying him? I'm afraid if I don't reply him a few days he's going to back off and not talk to me at all and think I don't care about him anymore..I'm so clueless what to do, I've been working so hard to not be needy and desperate because I want to be with him. He's been the one initiating the contact for now by text only though..late at night the texting doesn't continue, then I go to work and same thing all over; that's how the day repeats...So guys and gals what's the deal? Should I just keep replying his texts or ignore them or what? I don't want to play games, definitely not sure if he is playing any games, but i don't think he is. Do you think he really wants me to know how he is as a person, so that I can trust him then we can start the relationship over?
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reader, LoveyDoveyBear +, writes (8 April 2011):
LoveyDoveyBear is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks Naley1289~ !
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reader, Naley1289 +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Um no. I seriously don't think he's trying to use you for sex. He was with you before, if he wanted to get laid he would have tried by now. It sounds to me like he's actually being sincere and wants to get to know you so if you guys get back together, you learn to trust him. Hope I helped!:)
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reader, LoveyDoveyBear +, writes (6 April 2011):
LoveyDoveyBear is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf he really wanted to just get into my pants, wouldn't he not care about my trust issues and just deal with them easily and try to get me in bed? ~Anonymous, are you saying that because of his past?
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reader, LoveyDoveyBear +, writes (6 April 2011):
LoveyDoveyBear is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf he really wanted to just get into my pants, wouldn't he not care about my trust issues and just deal with them easily and try to get me in bed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): He just wants to get in your pants, we are sneaky guys! He probably has someone else and is just keeping you on the side in case. I do this all the time and I know heaps of guys who do the same thing. He is just looking to keep your punanni on the go and hopefully hammer you one day. he is not serious.
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