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Hey, my pretend name is Hikari! (Just go with it, haha.) So I'd like to think that the reason why you're reading this is because I caught your attention somehow, huh? I think I'm pretty easy to understand. Maybe? Yeah, ok I guess now. I know I'm not. I tend to hide how I feel a lot, I don't like to express emotions, affection makes me uncomfortable for personal reasons lol. I grew up reading books and hiding in a fantasy land. I've always thought the world I created was better than my reality. Anyways, in the real world I live in New York, the city of bad asses haha.

Even though New Yorks aren't apparently loved for caring, I sure am. I like to help other people with their issues because when I have a problem I'd like to think someone cares. Even though its a bit ironic considering the fact that I hate to get help. Contradicting I know? What can I say? I am a Capricorn after all. *Sighs* I'd like to be a writer one day. I'm a mom, isn't that cool? :) My favorite color is Jade and I swear I was born at the wrong time, that has to play into something in life, doesn't it? *Thinks deeply* I hate being told what to do or when people expect me to react right away to what they've said! Listen, I've been damaged beyond repair. Take me as I am or leave, no exceptions. Now for the big question, the one you've been waiting. Yes, I am pretty haha. No, just kidding. I'm single. I guess? I've always thought for me to be single I'd have to be emotionally, physically, and mentally available. I guess I am available physically. But mentally and emotionally speaking? I'm very much involved. So I guess what I'm trying to say its I'm single but not available. Anything you'd like to know? Just message me. I might respond or probably just fall asleep when I'm ABOUT to respond....

His moody behavior confuses me. What does he really want?

Q.   Ok, brace yourself. This might be a tad bit confusing. So, "Leonidas" and I were together before from November till February until I got pregnant and had an abortion. He clearly has relationship issues which I think are pretty obvious? He grew up in ...

A.   8 April 2011: Oh, God. I was afraid someone might say that. I really am not playing games with him its just that I happen to retreat when I get scared just like you. I don't know what he feels anymore because he won't bring it up anymore and I refuse to. I called ... (read in full...)

Bf broke up with me but texts me everyday...did he really mean what he said, or is he trying to let me off easily?

Q.   We've only been together for a week, he told me he cheated on his ex before but he is not like that anymore (explained to me why he told me that so that if later I found out how he was before I would think he had been lying to me). He said he is ...

A.   7 April 2011: Um no. I seriously don't think he's trying to use you for sex. He was with you before, if he wanted to get laid he would have tried by now. It sounds to me like he's actually being sincere and wants to get to know you so if you guys get back ... (read in full...)

When a man says "Be Patient With Me, ".what does that mean?

Q.   I have been seeing this man since Nov. all was great until Feb. I saw him 3-4 times a week, slept over and suddenly that slowed down. I found out that he sees another girl on my off days, he has no idea I know, I have asked if there are other women ...

A.   7 April 2011: Oh my God. He's seeing someone else? Do you know who the other woman is? How exactly did you find out about the other lady and how much do you know? I have to say that I don't like the fact that he lied to you. If he was seeing someone else he ... (read in full...)

Do I stay with my GF who I'm comfortable with, or pursue the new girl I can't stop thinking about?

Q.   Ok. So, I've been dating the same girl for two years now. Things are mostly good, except we fight a lot, have different personalities, and dont really have many similar interests (i.e. she gets pissed off when I spend a day watching sports). We are ...

A.   7 April 2011: Ok, first things first NEVER LEAVE THE ONE YOU LOVE FOR SOMEONE YOU LIKE BECAUSE THE ONE YOU LIKE WILL LEAVE YOU FOR THE ONE THEY LOVE. That being said, if you're not ready for that type of commitment, tell her. Don't keep her waiting or lead her ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend likes his space and doesn't share things with me when I stay at his place

Q.   me and boyfriend together 5 months and i sleep over once or twice a week. when there tho i feel in the way as he dont like me in the kitchen and says i will make crumbs and he likes to do things his way. wont let me wash up or anything 4him. also he ...

A.   7 April 2011: That doesn't exactly sound very good. When was the last time he had a relationship? Because he's just not used to having a girlfriend again. You know after a while of doing the same thing or being single, you kind of forget how it is to be in a ... (read in full...)

Her best friend is a boy. Am I wrong because I feel jealous?

Q.   hey guys, i go out with a girl that has lots of boys as friends and has a boy best friend, is it normal for me to get really jealous and sometimes upset because it seems like she likes him ? ...

A.   7 April 2011: Oh, my God! I know what you feel like, not because it has happened to me but because I'm a girl who ONLY had guy friends and almost every guy I have dated at one point has felt super jealous because my best friend is a guy and I only hang out with ... (read in full...)

How can I get over someone I can never have?

Q.   How can I get over someone I can never have when I have to see them once a week and they stare at me all the time? Sometimes he ignores me and acts quite rude to me. I don't do anything to provoke this right enough but then all of a sudden, when I ...

A.   7 April 2011: Um ok how old are we talking here and how old are you? Because remember that age is only a number but we don't want to get involved with someone too old and have him be called a pedophile. Another thing, what bad things are we talking about here? ... (read in full...)

Does my dream guy like me?

Q.   Hey there! Alrighty, so, I need some help figuring out if my dream guy likes me! He's very confusing; almost like an intersection during the holidays. Anyway, he started a chat session with me on Facebook nearly a year ago. He asked questions about ...

A.   7 April 2011: Awww! It totally sounds like he might be crushing on you! :) if he didn't like you he wouldn't compliment you, that's one! And he got defensive when your friend called you his "bride". That's always a plus ;) ... Maybe now that you guys will be in ... (read in full...)

She broke up with me for another man. Does she want me back now? What should I say to her?

Q.   Two years back, I had a girl friend whom I loved so much. She had all the qualities I would need in a woman. I love her and did everything in my capacity to make her happy. We co-habited for two years in Kampala Uganda during my studies. When I ...

A.   7 April 2011: I don't know. It doesn't sound to me like a good idea. If her mom didn't accept you and she was willing to listen to her so quickly that's not a good thing but people make mistakes and sometimes learn from them. Is she with this guy? I know you ... (read in full...)

When is it too late for closure? is revenge helpful? Should I try to get over him?

Q.   Hey guys, it's me again. Well, a guy broke up with me about 7 months ago and I haven't heard from him since. 2 days after the break up (which was a bad break up) he was in a relationship with this girl (Who I suspect he was cheating on me to begi...

A.   7 April 2011: Wow, I am very sorry to hear that he left you and then jumped into a relationship with the next girl. If I have learnesd anything in my 22 years of living I'd have to say that things happen for a reason. IF he was cheating on you then let karma bite ... (read in full...)

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