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writes: I have a boyfriend and a best mate. They both mean the world to me. My boyfriend is in the same science class as my best mate, and they always come out after it laughing and smiling about what they were doing in class (my boyfriend makes a joke out of just about everything) I think this is great, I've heard of loads of girls who feel their boyfriend hates their mates.But recently I've had a suspicion that my best mate fancies my boyfriend. Not just because of science, but she always waits for him at the end of his lessons, when it should be me doing that. Today when his bus arrived, she jumped up and screamed his name and waved him over to sit with me and my friends. As he was walking over, one of my friends said "why do you like him so much?" glancing at me. My best mate replied "Because he's so nice and sweet!" I said nothing.So, some of you might say "well, go confront her, ask her why she's doing this!" But I don't want to. Im her best mate, I don't go and randomly accuse her with no proof and just my worries. I've talked to my boyfriend about it, and he says they're just mates. I trust him, and I trust my friend... I think.What can I say to my best mate that won't have us falling out, but at the same time telling her to lay off? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): i was in the same situation last year but i kept my mouth shut and it got me nowhere...6 months later he told me they had been seeing each other behind my back for a month...in my honest opinion i would confront your mate.... she should know how this makes you feel and as for your boyf tell him to literally cop on...please for your own sake don't make the same mistake i did and spare your own feeings..if she is insulted or hurt don't worry about it as she has hurt you by carrying on this way around you and towards your boyf.....think of yourself first for once afterall he is your boyf.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): ++I've talked to my boyfriend about it, and he says they're just mates. I trust him, and I trust my friend... I think.++
You obviously don't trust your mate.
Anyway, you should tell her it makes you uncomfortable about blah blah blah. If she is mature enough, this wouldn't be a problem. If I've been hanging out with my close friends' gf's or wives too much, I would appreciate my friends tell me upfront. The most negative thing I would feel is be embarrassed.
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