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writes:Hi everyone. I've been seeing a guy for a few months now and it going great. Its just casual - we hang out and have fun but nothing too committed. However problem is I think im starting to fall for him. I know he doesn't want a relationship, which is fine and I'm glad he's been honest with me about that. I don't want to stop seeing him as we do have a really fun time together, but how do I keep my feelings in check and not get too involved? I've been hurt in the past and I don't want it to happen again, so should I just get out now? Advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation?! Reply to this Question
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reader, marcellaanne2  +, writes (9 May 2013):
I have been in an extremely similar situation. Absolutely get out now.
I dated a guy only for a month. It was casual, no commitment, no label on the relationship. When I started to fall for him, at first I was like 'hey, maybe he feels this too and will want a relationship with me.' Then one night as I'm hanging out with a girl friend from work, he texts me and asks for a threesome with me and this girl. That's when I knew.
Guys who say they don't want anything serious MEAN IT. If you feel seriously about him, you WILL get hurt.
When I told this guy that I wanted something more serious and that I was breaking things off with him to find it, he didn't care at all. Didn't seem disappointed, didn't try to convince me to do anything. Just said 'that's cool' and I left. Just like that. Never heard from him again. It was so disappointing that I meant nothing to someone who was really starting to mean a lot to me. But I'm so happy I'm out of that situation.
So my advice: Get out. The longer you stay, the worse it'll get.
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