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writes:I've heard alot about how girls/guys are afraid to be themselves around their lovers, because they feel that they'll lose interest. I think you should be who youare, no matter how you dress, act, talk, or think. Love is love, no one should be judged just because they're different. I've been judged and hated by a number of people who've never even met me, and I think it's wrong. I tend to be a little too opinionated about these sort of things, but I think it's important that I share my thoughts with people. It shouldn't matter who you are, whether you're black, white, gay, straight, or anywhere in between. I've never judged anyone, unless I've met them and gotten to know them, even then most people turn out different from who you thought they were. If you feel that you're lover, or even your friends, wouldn't like you if you acted like yourself around them, they aren't worth worrying over. You should be who you are, and be loved for it rather than loved for someone you're not. I've had many experiences with posers, and people who were afriad of themselves. Many people have told me that they are scared of being who they want to be because they think no one will like them. I tend to stand out from the crowd, and I've got a lot of friends and family who love me for who I am. I act, dress, talk, and look the way I want and I'd never change for anyone. It's pretty sad when I hear about people changing themselves just for someone else, who isn't worth changing over anyways. Just remember- Be yourself and don't be afraid of trying new things and and being judged! They're just jealous of you anyways :D
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 flipping heck, another one! That's the third article, not including my own, on this topic!
Pretty good, though I'd like to make a point: judging people is unavoidable. You can change your opinion of them, but you start subconciously judging them from the moment you see them: how they're dressed, how they speak, what they say...
So dont scold yourself if you find thoughts that seem like judgment: it's human nature, and unavoidable I'm afraid.
You're absolutely right, though: keeping yourself open to new opinions of a person is pretty important. Good read :)
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reader, go4jess +, writes (18 November 2008):
You are soooooo right!!! You smed the whole thing up! you make a wonderful writer. This has been a down day for me. I needed that. thanks!!!!!!
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (9 November 2008):
 Oh My God, you have basically summed up entirely what I believe, I honnestly and truly believe you should be yourself no matter what, like my icon
'Be who you want to be, not what others want to see'
I strongly believe you should be yourslef and not change for anyone, if anyone wants you to change, that's there problem, not ours.
I have always believed this, and people get it, but not everybody believes it as strongly as I do, it's nice to finally see that I'm not the only one who thinks this too.
My friend stands out too, but she also doesn't really get it.
Be who you are, don't change for anyone else, no matter what, that's what I always say.
And I definatly agree with you, Love is Love, nothing should change that, if you love someone, you love them for who they are, not what they wear or anything like that.
People try to fit in, but they're not being themselves, which is wrong, there are always going to be people out there who are interested in the same things as you are. People do it so they don't get picked on, but people who pick on them just do it because they either think it's fun and amusing, or they're bored, which I disagree with completly
Sorry, yeah this is really long, but it's something I truly and strongly agree with, and I agree with you all the way 100%
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reader, undamaged +, writes (4 November 2008):
I agree if they can't like you at your worst they for sure don't deserve to have you at your best in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): As long as you don't act like an arrogant know all and hurt everyone else,thinking that "being rude" to everyone is "acting cool" its fine being your own self.
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