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writes:Women often get caught up in the excitement of finding a new man, so much so that they throw caution to the wind and carry on with him even when there are clear indications he is not worth the bother. The very needy ones might even insist that they are in a relationship after one meet or chatting online! It is almost as if the delusion or dream of having a relationship is more important than the real world. In some cases this fantasy world works out well for the person. I once knew a very old lady who insisted she had a boyfriend/lover - he was a very young man who was in prison for assault and selling drugs. But he overlooked her being very old and not much to look at because he was not in a position to be picky and she overlooked him being a criminal because it gave her a dream world to focus on. She had no interest in being with a much older man, or a boring man and her criminal was always in prison with no opportunity to cheat on her, move or do any of the things a normal young man might suddenly do to a woman. He was always there when she phoned, he was always eager to write to her, because his life was so boring and she sent him money and gifts.She has a young man on her terms, something she could never achieve if this man was not incarcerated. He had a sugar mummy and mentor, something he could never get from a young woman.The problems would happen when he was released and their power struggle shifted.But find a beautiful, sexy woman who is able to be demanding and picky and things change. She would not want such a man, she would see that as lowering her standards and making do.Just as she would not need to consider a man who is twice her age, married or unemployed.What are your deal breakers? Make them realistic.I have my own business and a very good income, property and savings, so I would not tolerate a man who is stupid, lazy or bad with money, or who earns a lot less than me. Fine. It is easy for me to be sure of my man and stick to those standards. But if I were eighty years of age and skint such a man would not want me.Make your list of deal breakers, make it realistic and find out everything you can about your potential partner before taking them seriously. If you get in touch through a dating site or online check it all out before you meet.And remember if it all seems too good to be true it probably is. I have heard of several cases of plain old women falling for the chat up of a young handsome guy who then nags them for money and is probably not any of the things he has pretended to be. Ask yourself if the person who is showing interest in you is worth pursuing, but also ask yourself if it is realistic to think they would want you , and if you would want you if you were them.A few years ago a young woman said she fell madly in love with a man online who was handsome, rich and famous, but he needed money to set up a business. She was so keen on the idea of getting a handsome,rich, famous man she ignored the fact that a rich man would not need to borrow money, and if he needed money for a business venture he would go to a bank, business or financial advisor. But there again she should not have been expecting a rich man to want her, her greed took over from her common sense. In her haste to marry a rich famous man she "loaned" him her money and never saw him again.Her greed backfired on her.
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reader, ArabianNights  +, writes (21 May 2020):
My dear this is good advice. Keep the stories coming ????
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