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writes:I need opinions agony aunts and uncles! I was engaged to my recent ex. We were together for 3 years. When I graduated, I went out to eat at the school cafe with the other students to say our goodbyes. The main person organizing the lunch was a male. He posted the lunch on FB. My ex went crazy saying it was actually me going on a dinner date by myself with him. I said no way and he could even contact my classmate. I even invited my ex to a grad party and he wouldn't talk to anyone so we had to leave. Anyway, its been 6 weeks and he hasn't called me. This time I refused to make amends first because every time we have problems, I'm the one who calls back first. I put my foot down this time because I think its unfair. Well, I gave in after a whole month of no contact. He didn't respond. After another week, he said the only way would be if its at a cafe with his friend present. I never hurt him physically so why would be do something so strange and immature? Also, he is extremely "religious" and thinks sex is bad. But, he moved the wedding date twice to late 2012 and even suggested spring 2013! I don't get how he went from calling 10 + times a day, I told him that I work and study so I can't always talk to him just dropping me(the so called love of his life) like a bad habit. I so confused, hurt, angry all at once. I really don't understand. Doeshis actions even sound normal? Plus, the few friends I have left(since he hated me socializing and refused to accompany. Me) say I'm better off since he seemed kinda gay. Please help! I'm too embarrassed to talk to anyone about this!
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reader, misztoria +, writes (16 July 2011):
 I agree with Silly B. He's controlling and you don't want to continue a relationship with someone like that.
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reader, SillyB +, writes (16 July 2011):
 You are better off, because he is abusive and controlling! Its difficult to see where you are in the eye of a hurricane. From the outside, based on your description, you were in a relationship with a very controlling,immature and mentally abusive person. Can you imagine a happy wonderful relationship with him? He did you a favor by not calling you. NO keep at it, cease any contact with him. You'll be so much better off in the long run!!!
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