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writes:I am so hurt by my ex and I really just want to vent... we dated for about 6 months and it starts off great... we met at work, went out on dates that he paid for, we spent alot of time outside of work, and generally enjoyed our time together...I though he wanted more of a commitment because he expressed upset feelings when I told him that I still dated other ppl, so I decided to commit to being just with him... everyone at work knew, at that point, that we were seeing each other... about 3 months ago, he had a financial crisis, so I stepped in and I bought him things, took care of his gas, made him dinner for work, and generally thought that everything was going pretty good... I noticed about 2 months ago that he was getting super friendly with another co-worker and i asked him about it... he denied it, but then he started ignoring me and avoiding me at work...we still saw each other outside of work, but I felt like he was unusually rude while at the job... I should have taken that as a break up, but I didn't... he just wasnt speaking to me at all... about 3 weeks ago, I decided to ask her if she was seeing him and she denied it, but I then tried calling him a cpl times within the hour that I talked to her and he wouldn't answer... but then he shows up at my house, because he talked to her and was upset that I even spoke to her... after that, I figured out we were done... now, three weeks after that incident, they are at work kissing and hugged up... how do I get over this? I'm really hurt, but I'm trying my damnedest not to show it... any suggestions? Should I try n talk to him at some point or just let it go? P.S. I'm not bad looking, but I've now noticed that every time a guy seems interested in me at work (not that I would date anyone from work again, but it's nice to be noticed and have a distraction), the girl eventually comes and flirts with them as well... is this a competition now? I mean, she's got the guy I wanted... isn't that enough?
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reader, addicted2sweetness  +, writes (27 July 2013):
 What he has done is so disrespectful and you do not deserve this. I really hate it when a guy just shuts out and doesnt communicate or talk at all.
But then again if he did talk he wouldnt have any excuse or anything to say because he knows what he has done he has no excuse. Its so terrible, both of them! He must have been seeing her behind your back for them to end up hugging and kanoodling with one another! :(
You dont even need him in your life even as a friend because friends remain loyal...they do not betray just as how he has :(
Keep strong and do your own thing. He will see whats coming to him. You are the stronger person in the end :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2013): These people both seem horrible, sly and underhand- two snakes in the grass and anyone would be hurt, it sure is hard to deal with difficult, bitchy people - especially at work. but like the first answer, just think how much better you are without people like him in your life-
he's obviously emotionally stunted and has no compassion or decency- why would he treat u so badly and rudely otherwise, no excuses for the way he went about a break up... Ya really don't want a relationship like that, remember what a great person u are!!
Take care n chin up!! :)) xxx
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (20 May 2013):
 Youre not at a loss here. He doesnt kno wat he wants and so he moves from girl to girl. Next week hell be around someone else. Tuff tht u r working with him bad decision on ur part to take that risk. However let this go. You def deserve better.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 May 2013):
 You are well rid of this guy. Now... get on with your life and don't let ANY aspect of what went on between the two of you take up even a MOMENT of your time.....
Good luck....
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