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*elbelle2430
writes:My boyfriend recently broke up with me out of nowhere. We were "that" couple and everything was great. We connected emotionally, mentally and physically. We talked about our future and what we wanted out of life, and everything was the same. I'm 26 and he is turning 30 in two weeks. It was so sudden and I've gotten every excuse known, it was me, he's not ready, I'm just not the one and that's what he's looking for. The last couple weeks I keep hearing and/or seeing him out and he's wasted. On Facebook he posted "the pathway to your 30s should be paved with sunshine and strippers, not rainy days and 10 hour work days." His brother commented that isn't supposed to be about marriage and kids, and he said, that's at the top of my bucket list. But I refuse to settle until I find everything that I want. Patience is a virtue. Back to the subject, sunshine and strippers. And there are all these pictures and comments of him going out and partying with all these girls I've never even heard of before. I thought we were in this together, we used to party together, as well as have romantic dates. I am young so I still want to have fun, but I'm ready to start settling down. It's hard because I'm almost jealous of him right now. He's just doing his thing and having a blast and I'm miserable. I have a great group of friends, but now he's surrounded by tons of people I never met. How can I get this jealousy and pain to go away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2013): it sounds like he has a case of "is the grass greener on the other side?"..don't show him your sad go out and try to have fun yourself and keep busy..he'll hear that your out and about and will try to contact you..trust me they always do..
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 April 2013):
 OK, lesson number 1.
When someone breaks up with you, you unfriend them of FB, because if you keep them around YOU will constantly be reminded of what they are doing and thinking or whatever stupid crap they sprout.
If you feel like you can't unfriend him, then HIDE his posts (and his brothers).
Lesson number 2.
Stick to your friends. Him posting crap about strippers, doesn't mean he is HAPPY. It means he is trying to SEEM happy and carefree.
Lesson number 3.
No one "Just" gets over a break up. Take the time to mourn the end of it, but don't have constant pity parties for yourself. After all, it's better that he broke up if he wasn't wanting to be with you. It might not FEEL better, but no one wants to be stringed along.
It will get better, let him do his thing, YOU do yours.
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