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*annah22
writes:Hi, about 4 months ago, my boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me, apparantly because I was leaving home to go to Uni, and he didnt want to stop me from living the uni life and having a good time. I was heartbroken and it doesnt seem to be getting any easier. I know that I still love him, and he says he still loves me, but the way he acts makes me think he doesnt. For example, he has been on dates, kissed another girl whilst drunk, and hardly sees or speaks to me anymore.I dont know what to do because I am still so crazy in love with him. I dont really feel like I can talk to anyine about how I feel, as he was always the person I could tell everything to. Help :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2012): Well you can love someone even if they are wrong for you. He finished it and kissed someone else so however he says he feels, his actions say he wants it to be finished.
If this is the case, you can do nothing to change his mind so you need to put your energy into finding other things to do. If you have no friends to confide in, go out and make some. There are plenty of opportunities at uni. Once you make new friends and find things to do, it will be easier to forget him.
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reader, downonmyluck  +, writes (1 June 2012):
hi, first of all let me tell you this is a common problem with people in your own age group.Just to let you know it's something "normal" to feel. I'm not too sure of his actions while being drunk,etc.. in kissing another female & whatnot. Maybe it's because he wants to make you somewhat jealous? Is this something he does in front of you or maybe something you've heard about from another friend or something of that nature? But more than anything as far as you moving away from home & starting your life on campus....he's probably having some bad feelings about you doing that...it can be a pretty normal thing for a guy to think like this...He might feel that you are abanding him... but probably more than anything, he's probably really scared that you might find Mr.Right while attending college classes. I don't think he really had intentions of breaking up with you but looking at his side of things, he probably chose to do that before you would be moving onto college, rather than dealing with it after you leave. If you're serious about keeping him, you might want to discuss this with him..And you might offer to have him come & see you at college every now & then. Or possibly you can come & see him also depending on how far away this college is,etc.I don't think it's fair of him to be this way with you...I would try to discuss this with him.. If you truly love him try to convince him that you still love him& would like to see him occassionally while in school. I know this is something a bit hard to get over,but in time you will! Time does have a way of healing, believe me! You never know you might find someone else at school too, you never know...(ya i know, you probably didn't want to hear that right now) but atleast if you give him the option to talk to you about it, you'll atleast know you did your best.And you never know, he just might be very glad you discussed such things. Good Luck!
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