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writes:I really don't know what to do.i was seeing this guy for a few months on and off, and then eventually we became more serious, but our relationship as friends made it wierd for us, so it didn't last long.At the time I thought it was for best that we broke up, but i think i still love him.All i can ever think about is him. We broke up because we're such good friends, but i feel him drifting away, we used to talk and meet up atleast every other day, but he hardly bothers to talk to me anymore.I don't know whether he thinks its awkward now, but i don't want to loose him all together.I can't loose him.It seems like he's deliberatly trying to stay away, when all i want to do is spend time with him, he's going to university in september, and i don't want him to go, wothout knowing we're close enough to meet up again.I really need him around.what shall i do, when he obviously doesn't need me there??as many answers as possible please :)
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reader, sarahbeth101  +, writes (15 August 2007):
well, if you want to hang out with him, maybe just say sumthing like, hey we haven't hung out in a while, maybe we should do sumthing this weekend or sumthing like that. Or just call him or text him and be like whats up?!
If you really like him that much, don't let him get away, do what u have to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): This is obviously really tough for you, but I can sort of relate to your situation myself. I've been best friends with my boyfriend for about ten years, and two years ago we started dating. At the time, we both felt really really awkward and weird (this lasted several months) and despite knowing each other for so long, we suddenly found ourselves with nothing to say to each other! However, we both knew that what we had was something special so we stuck at it and eventually it felt 'normal'. What I'm trying to say is that just because it feels awkward (which it will) doesn't mean it is worth giving up on. While others may disagree, in my experience, having a relationship with your best friend is so wonderful, because you already know the person really well and you will always have a special bond. Not long after we started dating, I was due to start university myself, in a different part of the UK. My solution was to bring my boyfriend with me-and we've never been happier. However, not everyone likes to be in a relationship when they are due to start uni, for obvious reasons. Maybe he just wants to be single and free to enjoy himself and the awkwardness thing is just an excuse. Whatever the reason, you need to talk to this guy, you owe it to yourself to do so if you feel so strongly about him, otherwise you'll never know. If he feels he doesn't want a relationship, you'll just have to accept it and agree to keep your great friendship. Having your heart broken isn't nice but time is a healer! Trust me, I have experience there as well!
I really hope you sort this out, good luck!!!!!!!
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