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writes:Okay so this is my first relationship and the same goes for my bf. We started seeing each other late may (we hadn't known each other at all before then), but became official a month later--- though when people ask i just say we've been going out for 2 months.Anyway, we don't see each other as often as other couples I know of do, maybe once, sometimes twice a week? We shared our first kissed at the beginning of july, and it's quickly err escalated since then. Last night we got really into it and I straddled him and we began kissing each others' necks, and he was sorta /half-way/ feeling me updoes it sound like we're going too fast for two months? should we slow down?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): You're crazy, that's not fast at all. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 2 months and we've just about got fully naked, besides her pants.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (28 July 2008):
 The fact that you're concerned about it says a lot about the situation. You should let your own comfort level be your guide. And by that I mean your comfort level when you are thinking clearly, not when he's got his hands on your body and the hormones are raging through both of you.
So give it some thought. What are you really comfortable about doing with him at this stage of your relationship? The two of you should make up your mind, come to an agreement, and stick to it. That last bit is the hardest part, by the way.
When I was about your age and faced with the same situation, my girlfriend and I came up with this solution. We allowed ourselves to do whatever we wanted to as long as it did not involve the removal or getting inside of any clothing. Clothing was the boundary. It was tough, but we stuck to that for the more than a year that we were together. By the way, that was what we came up with after we'd been seeing each other for about three months. We'd actually gone just a little further than that, but decided we needed to back off.
How fast you go depends entirely on how you feel about it. Sometimes it will be faster, sometimes slower. But do what is right for you. You are the one who has to face yourself in the mirror the next morning.
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