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writes: Me and this guy became friends a few months ago. Neither of us have ever showed interest in being more than friends verbally. He has made statements explicitly saying we are just friends. However lately when we hang out we end up cuddling, spending the night and spooning while we sleep. He often squeezes me really tight and his heart speed up. We also wake up and chat while spooning/cuddling. Is this a platonic friend thing, just wanting to get some or is this possibly developing into more? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (4 January 2016):
 It's more.... and, it's only a matter of time before more good stuff starts to happen...
Good luck....
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 January 2016):
 You are just friends. His body reactions are physiological and from arousal. Friends should not cuddle and spoon. There must be some aphrodisiac quality upon hearing, "we are just friends." It makes guys a challenge. In rom coms they do that quite a lot. When there's a knowledge that nothing would ever come out of it, it makes you want it more, or the feeling of needing to taste something before it's gone forever. So you don't wonder about the what ifs. Yet it doesn't change anything about your status.
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reader, ellsie96  +, writes (3 January 2016):
 To me it sounds like you're both playing with the idea of being more than just friends. When you first met each other maybe the attraction wasn't initially there which is why he asserted that you were just friends so many times, but now he's got to know you that may have changed.I would go with the flow (as long as you're comfortable with it) because there is definitely some flirting and romantic behaviour going on, and see how it plays out.However, if you're not interested in him in that way, ask him about how he feels about you and the cuddling etc. to get to the bottom of what he's up to.I don't think he's just 'wanting to get some' otherwise he wouldn't have been friends with you for a couple of months first, he would have just found someone he could have a one-night-stand with.Hope this helps :)
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