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writes:My son married my best friends daughter a few yrs ago and have a kid. 5 months ago i hooked up with my friend and now she is expecting our kid. How do we figure this out. The new baby will be both our kids half sibling making them not only related by marriage but now by blood. Also their kid is going to be both a cousin and nephew to the new baby
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reader, blueyedgirl +, writes (20 November 2009):
 Wow, it looks like your question was answered. :-) My family is a little confusing also, but as long as every one gets along, thats what matters, and when people ask how you are related you just smile and give them the condensed version. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Your confusion, if its real, is because the people involved have more than one relationship with each other. But there is nothing inherently contradictory about people having multiple titles.
The son is married so you are his wife's FIL, not step-FIL.
They are not brother and sister since you havent married the "hookup". Even if you did, they would be step-siblings implying no biological relationship that precludes them being married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe question is does my son and his wife now become brother and sister because me and her mom have a baby. And does that make me my sons wife step father in law?
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (19 November 2009):
 I think PeanutButter has said it all. Wow good job!
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (19 November 2009):
 Sorry, my chart didn't show like i expected it to, but basically, i've explained it in the text :) XxxxX
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (19 November 2009):
I think you've probably just about worked it out for yourself :)
It might look something like this:
You ---------------- Best friend
/ /\ \
/ you and bff daughter \
/ \
Your Son Her Daughter
\ /
\ /
\--------Their child-------/
Your son is your wife's step son, and your wife's daughter your step daughter.
Their child is yours and your wife's grand child.
Your joint child is the half sibling to both your son and her daughter.
This then makes your joint child an aunt or uncle to your older childrens' child.
The new baby will not be a cousin to the child that they have already.
A first cousin is the child of your aunt or uncle - your elder children are not your baby's aunt and uncle, they're the baby's sister and brother.
The baby will be cousin to your sister or brother's children or your wife's sister or brother's children.
Your children will call the baby sister or brother, your childrens children will call the baby aunt or uncle and the baby will call your elder childrens child niece or nephew.
The blood relationship between your son and her daughter is not directly by blood, but via a blood sibling, so this isn't a worry.
I think it's nice that you all get along and that everyone is happy :)
Good luck with the baby!! xxx
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reader, blueyedgirl +, writes (19 November 2009):
I understand your situation, however I don't see a question here. What exactly are you asking?
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