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writes:We both work together in different departments and when I do go to his department he does say hi and ask how I am, he has once or twice greeted me as "hey friend", also has high-fived me on doing a good job with a client. I dont notice him looking in my direction or anything. However I notice he always moves about when I speak to him, he moves back and forth constantly (like all the time!). I cant determine whether he wants to talk or not since its me who does start a conversation most of the time. He sometimes maintains eye contact, looks down and looks up at me when I speak.What are your thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2019): He just seems like a friendly-guy who acknowledges you when you come to his department. Greeting someone who visits your work-station or department from time to time shouldn't be construed as "flirting."
You're on the job, on the time-clock, and co-workers are just that...co-workers! Don't over-read it, you might embarrass yourself.
In America, on-the-job flirting hinges on sexual-harassment. It's when friendly-gestures are over-read that innocent behavior can be taken out of context. Flirting or not, keep it professional. It's best not to turn your workplace into your dating-pool. You still have to work there; if you get played, or he turns-out to be a total tool!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2019): I think it's a classic case of seeing only what you want to see and not seeing reality - which is him just being friendly.
If he's acting nervous around you it's probably because he's noticed you maybe crushing on him or similar.
Maybe you could ask him straight out next time you see him? Try to strike up personal conversation and steer things forward, if he backs off then you have your answer.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (20 August 2019):
 I think he is mainly trying to be friendly.
Work romances are rarely a good idea, because if it doesn't work out it gets awkward not just for two people but for all those around them.
Is he like this around other people too?
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