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writes:Borderline dumb question, looking for some reassurance. There is a girl in my group of friends, that I never dated, never really liked (like I wanted to date) her, and never looked at her like that. Last night my girlfriend was asking me if I ever liked her in my past. I said no, didn't think anything of it. This morning I was talking to a buddy of mine who reminded me that me and this girl had a drunken make out one day back in college like 7 years ago.I'm all for honesty in a relationship, but do I need to now go back and tell my girlfriend this? I feel its information thats useless, however, I don't want to be a liar. I didn't lie to her, but just in case that was ever brought up in a public setting around her, I don't want to go back and look like I lied? Are some things just better off unsaid?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (8 November 2010):
 It's better off in your past as a distant memory. Your girlfriend shouldn't be asking anyway, because even if you did recall that make out then there's a chance of her developing retroactive jealousy. Basically, getting jealous of you making out with this girl before her time. Did she just ask out of the blue? The past is better off left in the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): Let it go, the question was, did you ever like her that way, you told the truth and said no. That's that. Just because you made out with her doesn't mean you liked her.
No need to bring it up, you weren't hiding anything at that moment because you couldn't remember.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 It was before you met her right? It is unnecessary to tell her. Besides, it was not a lie if you did not remember until your friend reminded you. The next time she happens to be the topic of conversation, be honest but for now, let it go.
I hope that helps.
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