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writes:Um I'm 15 years old and a dude and me and my girlfriend who I've been crazy for for well over a year and who I've been with for about a month having been talking a lot about sex lately and we've decided that we both want to loose our virginity to eachother in the near future. This is great. The issue is I'm super concerned about my performance. I know she's never had an orgasm, and I feel like itll be a disappointment if I can't give her that. I know that's not a realistic goal for first time sex, but I'm entirely obsessed with the idea. What should I expect from myself? Are my personal standards for myself over-the-top?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (27 January 2011):
 Lame Legal issues? What are those?
First time sex, especially for girls is painful, and pretty crap. First time sex for boys, can sometimes fail due to erection or ejaculation problems.
First time sex after four weeks at the age of 15..... majority of girls regret it and feel bad about themselves later. Majority of relationships break up.
Having sex when your older and you've been with the person for longer makes better sex and longer relationships.
Please use contraception. Children/abortions can take the fun out of life.
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reader, Sandro +, writes (27 January 2011):
Sandro is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo if I have sex with her and she doesn't enjoy it, it doesn't mean that I'm doing something wrong? How can I make it the best experience possible for her? And I want it cause I feel close to her. I could've had sex with quite a few girls but I opted out cause I didn't feel any intimacy towards them. I just want it to be a special thing for her cause I know it will be to me
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reader, Sandro +, writes (27 January 2011):
Sandro is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. She stated explicitly that she wanted it, and while I've only been with her for a month, it would have been a lot longer had I not encountered some lame legal issues. But yeah, I think that's the best thing I could do, taking it easy and let whatever happens happen. Thanks again(:
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): Some women develop sexually a little later than men. I was curious about sex in my teens, but I really didn't enjoy it until my twenties. Even when I enjoyed sex with my first boyfriend, it took me a long time (months) to figure out how to get off with him.
It's not always an issue of performance, it could just be an issue of her being able to enjoy sex. If you go for it. Acknowledge she may very well not have an orgasm for a while. It might no be a failure on your part.
Have sex with her because you feel close to her, not because you want to make her come.
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