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writes:I'm 19. I've been seeing this guy for 3 months now. We aren't in a relationship, we're basically seeing each other/unofficially dating and seeing how things go between us.The last time I saw him was last week Sunday. Now usually whenever we talk, its always me who initiates the conversation. Majority of the time, its me saying hello first and starting off a conversation with him.As weird as it may sound, I know he likes me back, cause he does also keep the convo going, it just carries on for days, we get on really well and see each other even with our busy schedules. (Him working full time and me in full time education at university)Anyways, after I saw him on Sunday, I decided to just not say anything to him. I wanted to just see how long it would take for him to actually message me, and speak to me first. So, I just didn't speak. (We don't talk on the phone so I didn't have to worry about phonecalls).Now we talk through Blackberry Messenger, cause its quicker and free. We went a week without speaking to each other (we usually talk every single day), obviously in my mind I thought he didn't want to talk to me, but then yesterday he messaged me saying "Merry Christmas Bruce Banner x" (we have some inside joke going on), I had read it but my friends started talking to me and I forgot to reply back to him and within minutes he had written "Ignoring me yeah? Lol" (on Blackberry Messenger you can see when the other person has read the message you've sent them, which is why he thought I was ignoring him) so I replied back saying Merry Christmas to him too and told him I got distracted but it didn't sound believable, and he said "Lol lies, I know you're angry with me babe" but when I asked him why he thought that he basically didn't want to open up and said "no reason :)"I asked my male friends and they basically said that his actions from last night show that he misses me but he hasn't said it. (But I don't know if that's true)They said because I start conversation all the time, he's gotten used to that, and when I didn't say anything to him for a week, he assumed something was wrong instead of him just saying hi to me and that he was bothered by it when he felt as though I was ignoring him...What do you guys think? Bare in mind I'm very inexperienced when it comes to guys, I'm probably the worst person to pick up on little signs.
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reader, feralfox  +, writes (26 December 2011):
Well, personally I cannot stand passive guys. I guess it's because I'm always worried that he doesn't like me as much as I like him, so I want him to prove his interest by initiating contact. I guess it's a bit silly, but it works! It sounds like this guy missed talking to you. If he didn't care, he wouldn't have said anything! But that aside, I think you should back off a little and make him do some of the work. You don't have to cut him off or ignore him, but try to get to a point where he's contacting you at least some of the time. It's not fair for you to do all the work, and relationships are all about give and take. He's probably interested in you, but make him work for it a little! Being pursued is fun, let him do some chasing. Be nice to him when he does contact you of course, you don't want him to think you suddenly completely lost interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2011): Just read this book, "He's just not that into you". It'll clarify a lot of male dating behavior and make dating easier as you mature and grow up.
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