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How do I break up with my LDR boyfriend?

Q.   We've been together for over a year, and because of this, I believe a text might be really bad. But the problem with that is that it is a long distance relationship, so I can't meet up with him to do it. Also, we very rarely talk on the phone. We're ...

A.   30 November 2012: Hi there, Sorry to hear you're having problems in your relationship. LD is hard to sustain, so I understand completely. It also doesn't sound like you guys are great at communicating, which seems like the root of the problem. If you're sure it'... (read in full...)

How should I ask my girl friend to consider a small change to our routine when we make love?

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together for almost three years now. We have a pretty basic sex life, nothing ever too wild. One of my favorite things she does is let me finish in her mouth when she gives me oral. She doesn't give many blowjobs...

A.   30 November 2012: Hi there, Sometimes it's hard to talk about things in a relationship, especially when it comes to sexual fantasies. However, communication is key. It sounds like you want a detailed step by step, but honestly the answer is simple: just talk to h... (read in full...)

I really like two women. One is available. The other isn't ready for a relationship right now. What do I do?

Q.   I need some help! I am a single male. I was divorced ten years ago. I got out of a long term relationship two years ago. I have had time on my own and I am ready to date again. This is my problem. I have two lady friends. Both are attractive a...

A.   29 May 2012: I agree with what has already been said. Unless you are extremely straight forward with lady #1, you will be leading her on and could end up really hurting her. It sounds like you are very attracted to lady #2, and that you feel more for her that... (read in full...)

Questions for women who KNOW they are attractive to men....

Q.   You can be walking down the street (or in a store), and men would approach and ask for your name and number. Or you're at the club and they offer to buy you a drink. Pretty much wherever you are, men shower you with attention, even if you just met. ...

A.   29 May 2012: 1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men? Even though logically I know I am a beautiful woman, I don't necessarily think I feel different than most other women who are more or less attractive. Sometimes being winked at or comp... (read in full...)

My wife is pregnant, did she cheat on me and is having someone else's baby?

Q.   My wife and I have been using the withdrawal method of birth control. If the timing works it is about 96% effective. While there were a few occasions several months ago where the timing may have been in question, this past two months, since her last ...

A.   29 May 2012: When my sister was pregnant, she admitted to me that she and her boyfriend used the withdrawal method only ONCE while she was on her period, thinking that she wouldn't get pregnant. Well, exactly nine months later the baby came. I'm not sure ... (read in full...)

Who is responsible for kids turning into drug addicts? The parenting? The genetics? Or just luck?

Q.   Who is responsible for kids turning out drug addicts? The parenting? The genetics? Or just luck? This situation is ruining my life,and my marriage, and I feel ,Im not responsible for this, but the society is turning against us . It is very painful ...

A.   29 May 2012: First I want to say that It sounds like you have done everything you can in your power to get them the help they need. It's up to them now to turn their life around. They have to WANT to get well again, you can't instill those feelings in them on ... (read in full...)

Would you find a 42 year-old Virgin Dateable?

Q.   Now to be honest, I have average looks and am average size being a tall, typical bodied white male. The issues exist that I suffer from social anxiety and other disorders, limiting my social skills, which might not attract women right off the ba...

A.   13 May 2012: Of course you are dateable! Everyone has their preferences, and I'm sure there are a lot of women in your age group that have had a lot of baggage, and just want to meet a nice guy who's sincere, responsible, and ready for a real relationship. On ... (read in full...)

How many dates should you go on before having sex?

Q.   After how many dates is it ok to have sex with someone?...

A.   10 January 2012: You should wait until you are comfortable with him and ready. There is no set date that tells you the right moment, but if you're feeling pressured or insecure about the relationship then just wait. If he's interested then he will wait! If he's ... (read in full...)

Am I nuts, or is it wrong of my ex wife to make me a babysitter so she can get laid in her own bed?

Q.   I am worried (I guess that is the best word) that my ex-wife is shirking some of her responsibilities as primary custodian of my son. She is a great Mom, but I have been asked a few times lately to take my son and keep him out to a specific time. ...

A.   1 January 2012: So, I'm not accusing you of being an absent father or anything like that, but this woman is taking on the majority of the responsibility in raising your son. If she is the primary caregiver as you say. It's hard raising a kid when you are divorced ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to love one child more than your other?

Q.   This might be a very "rough" question.. But, let's say you have 2 children. Would it be normal to love one more then the other? Or, let's say you were put in a situation where only one of your children would live, and you had to choose which one ...

A.   1 January 2012: I can really relate to this question... not because I have ever been a mother, but because I am adopted and my sister is my parents' biological child. My father does a wonderful job of treating us equally, and loves us both. I know my mother loves ... (read in full...)

Am I just an ego boost for him or does he have feelings for me?

Q.   I have a crush on a guy at work. He's married but I don't know if he's happy. His wife is really beautiful and classy but he rarely ever talks about her. At work he always sits next to me when we're in meetings; he compliments me frequently on my ...

A.   1 January 2012: It's flattering, when a man gives us extra attention. He's probably really fun and intelligent-- and since he's married you know that he's probably worth something if another woman decided to go to the altar with him right? But if he was really a... (read in full...)

My BF will flip out over this. But was unacceptable for my coworker to give me, and the others, a quick hug?

Q.   Ok. So heres my question, please give me your opinions/advice whatever it may be! So today everyone in the office bought a gift we all contributed to for a male coworker. He gave everyone a quick hug, male and female. I know my boyfriend wouldn...

A.   1 January 2012: You sound like a friend I once had. I don't see her anymore. It started out small... her boyfriend would get jealous about guy friends. She didn't find this unreasonable, so she slowly started to draw away from them. Then he told her that she ... (read in full...)

I'm 19 years old, and my parents won't let me do anything!

Q.   Hello. Thanks for having a great community like this. I hope you can help me with my problem. I'm 19, I go to college and still live at home with my parents. My parents are really strict. They treat me like I'm 5 when I'm clearly an adult. They w...

A.   31 December 2011: Hi there, My parents were really strict to, and I am only a couple years older than you. I could go over to other girls' houses but I wasn't allowed to hang out with guys and god forbid I date one! But I know that it was all out of love, they wa... (read in full...)

My best friend said he'd go out with me and kiss me if I lost weight. Is it worth the effort?

Q.   So there's this guy I like, and we have been friends for about 2 years. He's my best friend, and I love him. Well a couple weeks ago I told him that I liked him. Which he thought was a little weird,thankfully it wasn't really awkard. Anyways a ...

A.   31 December 2011: You say you're on your way already, that you've already lost weight. This should be enough for him! He shouldn't say that he will wait until you're "hot". If you're already making the effort, that is all that should matter to him because he ... (read in full...)

I am almost a beautiful 22 year old and never had a boyfriend

Q.   Where will I find him? The right guy for me? I tried online dating, the only messages I get are from guys that I am not attracted to. They write me nice messages saying how I have beautiful eyes and smile. Its very nice of them to write me nice mes...

A.   29 December 2011: I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was almost 20... this past year. I don't want to sound arrogant, but like you I am very attractive and smart and also kind. Like someone else already said, we are intimidating to guys! For years I thought ... (read in full...)

What really hurts a guy aside from breakups?

Q.   This question is mainly directed to Men but feel free anyone to answer every little helps :) After a friend got dumped we went to her house to comfort her. She said she wanted to hurt her ex emotionally. I told her not to stoop to his level but my...

A.   29 December 2011: Guys are a lot more sensitive than we give them credit for, but in my experience it takes one particular girl to really cause them emotional pain. If you're not that girl, then the best thing you can do to get in his head is to simply walk away and ... (read in full...)

My friend warned me my b/f was cheating and going to dump me. What do I do?

Q.   My best friend has warned me two days ago that my boyfriend is to dump me for another girl. It hurt because I found out of her but its worse that he still hasn't said anything yet. It's breaking my heart that I'm waiting like this because my friend ...

A.   29 December 2011: I'm sorry you're hurting right now. If I were in your situation, I wouldn't wait for him to tell me. I would probably ask him to come over or meet someplace private... I would try to sound normal so that he wouldnt avoid the situation. Then I ... (read in full...)

I'm worried about my boyfriend's aggressive side

Q.   I am worried about my boyfriend's aggressive side. We've been dating for 4 months now, and sometimes he really snaps at me, and is rude/intolerant about other people. I just worry that he may become violent at some point. For instance, h...

A.   29 December 2011: You need to be very careful and observant right now. Right now is the time where you need to evaluate the extent of his anger issues, because in most cases it only gets worse the more you get to know him. Sorry if this sounds harsh OP, but I have ... (read in full...)

He can't have loved me like I thought! Is he a loser?

Q.   Me an my x broke up 3 months ago. I have never heard off him since. I did cheat on him, but i was drunk and it meant nothing. He changed his number. He cannot love me like i thought because he would have wanted to sort our problems out. Is it time ...

A.   27 December 2011: My mother used to say, "A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts." As someone who makes really bad decisions when I drink, I definitely stand by this quote. You said that the cheating didn't mean anything, but as an outside perspective I ... (read in full...)

How do I explain my love for my new Bf to my family? I am afraid they will not accept him due to his military background

Q.   Hi Everyone, Things in my life were difficult for a few years. Over the last year, life took a turn for the better and I'm so much happier now. I have got a better job, moved into a home of my own with my kids and built up a circle of friend...

A.   27 December 2011: Well, I consider myself a pacifist. I think war is fundamentally wrong, no matter what, and I personally would never choose to date anyone who came from a military background under any circumstances. That being said, I come from a very poli... (read in full...)

My dog died and now I feel incredibly depressed and guilty

Q.   Hey guys, This isn't about a romantic relationship but my heart is shattered in pieces all over the floor. I am grieving for my baby angel, a beautiful German Shepherd. She was 15 years old and she gave me unconditional love for half of m...

A.   27 December 2011: I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, but know that your dog will always love you and knows how much you love her. That's the beautiful thing about animals, we form a special bond with them that can last through anything. My parents got my s... (read in full...)

I'm 19, he's 33 - can it work? Opinions please.

Q.   Hello, I am 19, and have only had one other relationship with a boy who was 21. He was a kind person and a good first boyfriend, but he didn't want anything serious and was more interested in going to the bars all night with his friends (somethi...

A.   26 December 2011: I am in a very similar situation. I'm dating a man ten years older than me, and I'm just finishing up college. My advice to you is to take things very slow, and take everything he says with a grain of salt. The only way you can protect yourself... (read in full...)

Are his actions showing that he missed me?

Q.   I'm 19. I've been seeing this guy for 3 months now. We aren't in a relationship, we're basically seeing each other/unofficially dating and seeing how things go between us. The last time I saw him was last week Sunday. Now usually whenever we talk...

A.   26 December 2011: Well, personally I cannot stand passive guys. I guess it's because I'm always worried that he doesn't like me as much as I like him, so I want him to prove his interest by initiating contact. I guess it's a bit silly, but it works! It sounds l... (read in full...)

What is with men being attracted to teenagers?

Q.   I've seen a few questions on here about this. Guys if you're in your twenties why don't you want to date someone your own age? Why do you want to be with someone who hasnt even finished school? Is it because it's forbidden?...

A.   26 December 2011: Just because a man dates a girl in their teens doesn't mean that he ONLY date girls younger than himself. Sometimes you are simply attracted to someone and feel a connection. It doesn't mean they can't get a woman their age necessarily, it might... (read in full...)

I wish I was beautiful and that guys gave me attention, but sadly I'm not like that

Q.   I'm ugly, and that means guys pass me by, ignore me, don't approach me, or when they do it's obviously a momentary thing just 'cause they're desperate for sex (believe me, I can tell, I've learned to tell!). My friends are really pretty, and they ...

A.   26 December 2011: Some guys are shallow, but you don't want to be with a shallow guy anyways! I have always felt really insecure, but as I've gotten older I've learned to love the things that make me me, and that includes my weird nose. Guys see that I'm comforta... (read in full...)

I've only met him 3 times. Is accepting his invitation to a party potentially dangerous?

Q.   I've been invited to a house party on New Year's Eve, and i'm not sure whether to go or not. I recently met this guy. We have met up in public three times so far ( including the night we first met each other ). And now he wants me to go to the ...

A.   26 December 2011: I am in college, so I go to parties often with guys that I am interested in. It gives me a chance to see who his friends are and how he spends some of his free time. It will become obvious pretty fast if he is a bad guy. However, I am always ... (read in full...)

Will the stubble in my vagina put my Bf off?

Q.   Okay quick question! I'm going to have foreplay for the first time soon with my boyfriend. I have been shaving my vagina for years, but it always feel stubbly. I know boys prefer a shaved one to a hairy one, but im afraid the stubble will put h...

A.   26 December 2011: I think that every guy's preferences are different. If he gets hung up over a little stubble he's probably shallow and not a keeper anyway. I don't shave down there, I am completely natural and only trim. But my guy loves going down on me becau... (read in full...)

Verbally abusive boyfriend keeps saying that I'm dumb and good for nothing

Q.   Dear Cupid My bf used to abuse me verbally once in a while before and now he started doing it almost every day. He says its getting difficult to even hold a conversation without getting angry with me, nowadays. He often says i dont know anythi...

A.   26 December 2011: I'm sorry to hear that you are unhappy and doubting yourself! A boyfriend isn't supposed to make you doubt yourself and put you down. A boyfriend is supposed to support you and make you happy. If all he does is make you sad and feel stupid, the... (read in full...)

I'm starting to develop love/hate feelings towards my best friend. I'm not in love with her but I'm starting to feel weird and jealous of her boyfriends

Q.   Hi cupid, here's the deal. My best pal in the whole world is a girl, let's call her Penny. Penny and I have know each other since high school but have become great friends since college which we're in now. At first when we just started getting ...

A.   26 December 2011: I'm going to start by saying that you seem like a really emotionally mature guy, and I bet a lot of girls would love to be with someone like you. I know this girl is your friend, but it seems to me like she is toying with your feelings. She migh... (read in full...)

Was my disappointed reaction to be expected? He visited a lap dance place after his work Christmas party

Q.   Hi everyone and merry christmas. so i wanted to ask some advice and opinions off of you. so i met this guy online 3 months ago and we have totally hit it off and we have chatted loads and got on really well and plan to meet up in a couple of w...

A.   26 December 2011: I understand how you feel, but it doesn't sound like you two know each other well enough quite yet for you to get upset. You are completely entitled to your feelings of course, but unless you two commit to one another and talk about what that ... (read in full...)

I'd like to confront him about the false message he gave me

Q.   Hello aunts and uncles, I hope you're enjoying the holidays! So, there was this guy that I used to like. Let's call him T. T is somewhat of a ladykiller, he has a ton of friends who are girls, and he's dated a lot of people. Recently, I was leaving ...

A.   26 December 2011: As someone who falls for charming ladykillers quite often, I can say from experience that they are not the kind of boys you want to get involved with unless you aren't afraid of getting yanked around and confused. Like iAmHereTOHelpYou... (read in full...)

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