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writes:My ex and I broke up 3 years ago and we live about 80 miles from each other now. Recently she told me, "Apart from you, he [her boyfriend] is the most perfect person I know."What should I make of her comment?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): I keep in touch with her because I see no reason not to - I'm quite a social person and enjoy talking to her. But we don't talk a lot by any means, just catch up 3 or 4 times a year. It just surprised me that she was telling the truth (I know her so well, I can tell) and that she chose to tell me.
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (13 February 2011):
 That she tends to see people in all or nothing terms, black and white, all good or all bad. Right now she is seeing you and her boyfriend as all good, but that probably will change as most all or nothing people are not capable of long term stable relationships.No one is perfect. My concern is why you are still in contact with a has-been from three years ago and why you care about anything she has to say.If you want to be happy in life, move on and stop taking her calls and emails, etc.
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reader, Odds +, writes (13 February 2011):
 Sounds like she's trying to keep you around for free attention, and possibly as a backup plan if her current boyfriend (or the one after that) doesn't work out. This strikes me not as a genuine compliment, but blatant, manipulative flattery.
I'm not working with a lot of info here, though. Consider her tone, and her history, to decide if that's true.
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