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writes:This is directed mainly at other womenHi, I've been out on a few dates with a guy and I'm ready to take it futher than just kissing if you know what I mean. However, the other day he was round at my house, I put my hand down his pants and his cock was hard but felt tiny in my hand (which is not big by the way).I was really dissapointed and to be honest; a little put off. To make matters worse he came right there in his pants about 5 seconds after me stroking him, which was really frustrating for me.I'm now not sure what to do, any sexy fantasies I had of having sex with him have kind of evaporated. because its quite a new relationship I'm wondering whether I should move on but I dont want to be nasty or mean to him, so maybe I should give it a chance.Can I make it work? Am I being selfish or shallow or sohuld I let go gently?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2009): I don't think you're shallow, if you're a little turned off by his size you can't magically make yourself turned on again, can you?Obviously I agree with everyone else in I you really shouldn't tell him the REAL reason why you're breaking up with him. It could screw his self confidence over for a long time.Good luck :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): I don't think you are shallow :) I ended up having sex with a man(who had a very small penis) that I had dated for a while and it was very unsatisfying. He had the same problem with premature ejaculation as well.
I really liked this guy and tried to stick in there because he was a nice guy. The problem is, I would avoid having sex with him because it was not enjoyable and kind of grossed me out after awhile. When I left him, it really hurt the both of us. I feel if I hadn't stuck around so long, it would have been easier on him and I. I just felt I was too young to live without sex (I was in my 30's).
Sex is an important part of a relationship. I heard it put best this way....If the sex is good, it's only 10% of the relationship, if it's bad, it's 90% of the relationship. It's so true.
Find a good reason to leave, that has nothing to do with his penis size. I'm sure there is a woman out there that is perfect for him, it's just not you :)
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reader, busy04  +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Yes you are being kind of shallow...
You can't really judge a mans performance in the bedroom, his quality of intimacy or time that he can last(which can be worked out) based on his size.
And to be quite honest it's better to have a man that's small who knows how to use what he's got, rather than having a man that hangs like a horse & can't please you to save his soul!
But however, if his penis size is all that you can base this relationship off of, then maybe you should leave him. But really think about what attracted you to this guy in the first place & try to make a decision based on that. And I'm not saying that you should be unsatisfied or unhappy at all, but if you really feel something with this guy, then give him a chance, don't dismiss him because of the physical things. It's your choice, but try to make the right one sweetheart :)
Best wishes!
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (20 September 2009):
 YEP...
Move on. And yes, you are very shallow
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