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writes: I slept with a colleague from work a night but didn't properly had sex as I explained him I'd rather know him better for such and he said it was ok so we did sort of getting off a bit and so on. He told me to phone him to have sex if I felt like it but I explained I'm not so experienced about it and would prefer to go for a drink or so or to go slow but that I liked him and then we went home. Next day at work he acted strange and look the other way when I was around and I feel bad about it so that I didn't phone. He acts nice when there are other friends around but avoids me or talks weird to me as if we did not know each othat at all when alone, first I wanted to talk to him but now I don't have the strenght to try to solve things up and try being friends or something. I am also gettin paranoid about the fact maybe I feel so bad that things are so rough between us or thinking maybe the fact of me being not experienced despite my age is the problem and so on I would really appreciate ideas for me to feel ok or forget about it.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 You are NOT too sensitive for this life and you will NOT end up being alone. That only happens to horny old dirty-minded men like me. lol
You will be fine, be friendly but not overly anxious and allow the guy to ask you out. Don't worry, be happy and things will turn good for you.
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reader, Astrid +, writes (23 February 2008):
Astrid is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks to you all , I started talking normally and friendly to the guy and it went ok though I did not ask him out or anything like that I just don't feel ok for that as I'm still a bit depressed about the fact of not being going out and his first reaction and so on. I pretend to be strong and ok but sometimes I go real down inside so another break down would really hurt. I'll try to have a goos realtionship and move on despite it hurts quite a lot maybe I'm to sensitive for this life and will end up alone cos of this fact.thanks
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (17 February 2008):
I would agree with "Laura1318" that you should talk with the man. If you like this guy, give it a chance, as long as he is unmarried and available.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 He probably had a loose tongue and shared what happened and they knew there was something on between you two.
If you feel you need to clear up something, it would be best that you talk with him about it. This would clear up any misunderstandings .
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reader, Astrid +, writes (17 February 2008):
Astrid is verified as being by the original poster of the question The Guy is 36 and I'm 28. I know it is weird I keep thinking such a thing but I notice strange reactions in 2 or 3 people as not asking me for lunch when he's around and go with him and so on, I neither like him trying to be nice to the people around me and acting weird to me, when I say sleep together I mean getting off and stuff.Do you think I should try to solve this or just move on or try to?Thanks
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (17 February 2008):
He may have felt rejected by your actions. Something happened in your relationship and it caused a blip.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): What do you mean when you say "You didn't properly have sex"? Explain to me what you did and maybe I can answer your question better.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (17 February 2008):
In order to even try to help, I think we need to know a bit more. How old are the two of you? What exactly happened when you "slept together?"
It kind of sounds like he is only wanting sex here, based on what he said and the way he now treats you at work. In America, mixing sex at work is generally not a good idea in most cases, but every situation is different and it happens all the time. I don't know about Spain, but sex attitudes in Europe are much more permissive than in America.
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