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writes:Hi every1. I'm 32 yrs an in a relationship bt not married. I'm a breadwinner at home. I'm about to buy a house with my boyfriend an move out at home. My problem is I'm not sure what's going to happen as I don't know what to do as ill have pay school fees for my sibling an take care of my parents and now I'm about to have a house of my own. I don't know how I'm going to cope an I can't rely on my boyfriend as he has 2 kids outside our relationship an mostly he earns less than me. Reply to this Question
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reader, neomum  +, writes (6 May 2012):
one word springs to mind for me and that is 'BANK' you are a free bank for your family why do you have to pay everything for them if they want it they can get it themselves. I did the same thing as you I worked all hours to earn money just for my family e.g sisters to take everything because they could not be bothered to get a job and support their own kids I finally had enough of it as I want to buy my own home to but one of my sisters went one step to far and ran up debts in my name, you could fall into a simular trap if you keep on being a 'mug'. Oh and don't put your boyfriend on the deeds to your new home.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 May 2012):
 IF you can't afford it all some of it has to go...
why are you paying for your family?
either you stop paying for your parents and siblings or you don't buy the house...
can you afford the house without your boyfriend? I would not buy a house with him if you can't support yourself with out him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 May 2012):
 So what you're REALLY "saying" is: ".... I have a chance to make a REAL dunderheaded move and buy a house "with my boyfriend" (Are you REALLY going to put his name on the deed??????).... and I'm not sure if this action - which is kind of the equivalent of jumping off of a very tall building - is the correct thing to do. Should I do it?"
The answer is "No."
Good luck....
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