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writes:Hello,So I was wondering if anyone had any general tips for helping control insecurities?I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of months and he is honestly amazing, such a lovely guy. It's me that's the problem! I feel like I am too attached to him already and I will always read way too much in to things. It sounds so petty, but even ridiculously small things like if he is late for something we are doing I get over anxious and think that he doesn't want to spend time with me. This is only a small example but I keep over thinking everything as it all just seems too good to be true at the moment, like everyone I have had good and bad relationships previously.I also feel like I'm expecting too much of my happiness to come from him - I've never felt like thia before at all, I used to be so independent when I was single!I trust him completely and I actively encourage him to go out and see friends etc. so it's not coming from any sort of jealous place. I am a little worried I do suffer from stupid anxiety issues but I don't want to talk to him about it in case he thinks I'm mad as sometimes I feel a bit like I am! :( Seem to have good and bad days of how I feel! Any advice on how to manage the anxiousness would be greatly appreciated!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (19 July 2015):
 Familiarize yourself with calming strategies such as breathing techniques.
If you do feel too attached and recognize that, well, that's a good place to start assessing things.
If this is crippling you in your daily life then definitely seek counseling--ask your GP for a referral!
http://www.happify.com
http://www.actionforhappiness.org
Those websites have an approach to life that may help you.
Were any of your prior relationships awful enough to be called abusive? Sorry to ask but if you've been programmed by an abusive arse then you may really benefit from some compassionate and caring counseling. :)
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