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Anal sex instructions, please

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Question - (12 October 2007) 8 Answers - (Newest, 31 October 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *exyMia27 writes:

i want anal sex so badly......could someone give me a step by step guide? and any tips on the first time?

Thank you


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A male reader, Skweebuu United States +, writes (31 October 2009):

Any pain you would feel is generally a bad sign. If you don't do it right it can cause rectal tearing which can lead to many complications. (It's generally an ignorance on the guys part seeing as how the guy has to do a lot of the prep work involved.)

FIRST: He NEEDS to wear a condom, let's face it, it's your ass, not exactly the cleanest place to have sex... Also if you don't prepare correctly it can cause rectal tearing and his semen could get into your bloodstream (STD ALERT!).

SECOND: You have to clean your ass, use a non-scented soap to clean yourself really well. I'd suggest cleaning the inside so that you can make the third step better for him.

THIRD: Anal is all about relaxation, which means a LOT of foreplay. Have him bone up on 'rim job's'. It might be a little gross depending on the person, but it's really pleasurable to receive (and give depending on if the guy is really into this stuff) these and it really relaxed your anus. You need to do this until you can slip a finger inside with relative ease.

FOURTH: USE LUBRICATION! I can't stress this enough, anal sex is NEVER as pleasurable without this. This IS what makes it pleasurable. Many people argue the use of water-based lubricants over thick ones such as Vaseline. I highly recommend using a thick creamy lubricant such as Vaseline. He needs to make sure to liberally apply this (don't go crazy) onto and into your ass. He should also liberally apply this to his cock as well.

Once all of this is done he should slowly ease into you, make sure to tell him how it feels. If it hurts you may need to go back to step three. Tell him faster, deeper, slower etc. Also depending on how big he is you may need to train your ass hole. Toys and plugs should help with this.

Hope this helps, ENJOY! :D

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A female reader, sexyMia27 United Kingdom +, writes (16 October 2007):

sexyMia27 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

sexyMia27 agony auntThank you very much for everyone that left advice...

Myself and my boyfriend tried it recently following all your guidelines... We didnt manage it all for long...but after abit of practising witha butt plug, we will try again..

Thanks again..


x x x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007):

plenty of lube, condum, and a slow careful partner to start! I too was a little curious to start, but never experienced it till i traveled abroad. Now, I can't get enough of it! LOL. It was very weird to actually be asked which hole i wanted it in. Americans seem to think this is taboo?? Now advice wise, I'd start off alone in the bathtub with a toy, once your comfortable with that, move up to a real one!


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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007):

Just adding my two cents one the germ issue. Make sure your partner does not go back to your vagina after being in your anus without changing condoms and washing up. Germs spread that way can lead to bladder infections or worse.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007):

Are there any plus sides - I'm reading this as a 35 year old and beginning to realise why I've never bothered.....

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A male reader, dapone 1 United Kingdom +, writes (12 October 2007):

dapone 1 agony aunthi,the first time you have anal sex ensure that you are lubricated first,get yourself laid face down on a bed,let your boy friend put oil on his finger and gently rub your anal,then put more oil on his fingers 2 and massage your passage again.

After gently doing this for a period of time your passage will enlarge,then turn onto your back make sure your feet are touching the floor and hold on to the bedding or you will fall on the floor in pain,get him to use a well lubricated condom and gently rub against your passage,do not rush,do not use brute force, gently whilst still putting oil on himself and you slowly enter your passage.

If he forces to much your bowel will tear and you will need medical attention,some time by having anal sex you can get intestine infections,but if you take and use reliable condoms then you may be alright, i hope this helps, enjoy

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007):

Lubricant, lubricant, lubricant. And go slowly. Listen to your body. If it feels uncomfortable - stop. Make sure the guy wears a condom. This orfice was not really intended for sex, and you can do serious damage if you rip the lining, plus it opens up a whole world of weird infections that can cause problems in your intestines. Good luck.

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A female reader, Titania70 United Kingdom +, writes (12 October 2007):

Well, just try it out! Make sure your partner wears a lubricated condom and you add lubricant to yourself cos it will be more pleasurable. Avoid experiencing anal sex in the doggy-style position cos it does not always feel great. Especially at first. Enjoy!

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