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writes:Last night I got a txt msg from my supervisor asking me out on a date. My boyfriend who I live with was right beside me and saw the message. This question from my supervisor came out of the blue. I've worked with my supervisor for 8 yrs and have never had any type of flirtatious relationship with him. I've already informed his boss of what happened and it has been resolved. However my problem now is my boyfriend is extremely mad @ me. He thinks I've been talking with my supervisor and flirting with him. But my supervisor is not someone I have ever been interested in or ever will be interested in. My boyfriend doesn't trust me now and since I did not do anything I don't know how to make him trust me. When I try to talk to him about it he reads into things and try to make connections with him to other events that aren't even true and we just fight in circles. Please help. I cussed out my supervisor and asked him why he did this to me, that he knew I was with my boyfriend of 2.5 yrs and his response was "oh im sorry I thought u were single"
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): Well ask a work friend to tell him there's never been any flirting.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 You could try to have a friend persuade him that he/she has never seen you flirting with your supervisor, you could show him how little evidence there is to show that anything was going on between your supervisor and you. I suspect he will try to persuade himself that this is no proof at all, he will try and persuade himself that you orchestrated it all. Ask him then if he loves you at all, if he does, ask him then, why is he so hellbent on prooving the occurence of something that never happened? Ask him, what evidence has he ever had to accuse you of being unfaithful in any way? Ask him if he has never felt loved enough or happy enough, if he has ever had any reason to doubt. Again, at this point he may or may not sweep this aside and adhere so passionately to his accusations. If that is the case, you have to take a break from this relationship if not end it completely. You cannot carry on with this if he always carries his untrue suspicions in his heart.
I hope that helps.
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