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writes:I am interested in this guy....he was a very close friend of mine. A few months ago ; when both of us were a bit tipsy , we kissed.Then a week later, we met again and we just couldn't keep our hands off each other. We stay in different cities so we stayed in touch through skype...but he was always too busy or too preoccupied with his friends to take out time for me.At that time; one day i kind of said i loved him...* big big mistake*...but he was silent...there was no response...and over the days we didn't get to speak much or talk online. I sort of got the feeling that he wasn't interested so i decided to back off.Well we weren't in touch for a couple of weeks and then outta the blue, he said he wants me back.I had started dating other people then...Anyhow, i told him that i wasn't interested but he kept on insisting...but somehow i felt that his confessions were rather half hearted. So i told him to find someone else coz i didn't want to be a 'priority'.The point is, he's doing his MBA so he's pretty busy, but he finds time to play sports and get drunk with his friends or whatever; but when it comes to taking out time to talk to me; even now - he's always busy.I dunno; when i did my MBA i always took out time to talk to my bf...no matter how busy i was.Plus, he's always wants me to expose ol...and somehow i don't feel comfortable doing it...I don't know if he really loves me or he just wants some sexual satisfaction...coz even when he says he loves me he says "love ya"; instead of "i love you"...am i just over -reacting or is something wrong here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo i told him what i wanted and he said maybe i should go back to my ex bf or something...
So that's that...he'd gone for some college fest where apparently his phone had fallen in water and had conked off. So we didn't end up talking for 3 days.
but just to be sure, i called him from another number n the ring was going...so i dunno what's up with him...maybe he found another female and hooked up with her.
Well, i'm letting this one go...thanks for the advice everyone.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Be honest. Tell him you aren't feeling it anymore and you'd really appreciate if he didn't push the issue.
It can be just that simple. He might try to argue his case, but stand up for yourself. You're worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just feel really bad...i don't know hoe to deal with this...
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 January 2011):
I don't either. I think there may have been something if you two could have had regular contact, but as it stands, I think you made a good decision putting an end to this. Especially since he was doing things that make you uncomfortable. That's never a good sign.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just don't feel the love!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Your not over reacting if he is wanting a relationship with you then he needs to be prepared to make some time for you so that it can work out. However if he is very busy and you both live in different cities then yes i can see why this would be a problem. You need to take time out on your own and ask yourself what you really want from this guy so that you are happy with the relationship. Once you have decided this then talk to him and tell him this and see if he is prepared to do it for you. If you feel uncomfortable exposing yourself then dont do it. Tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable and dont let him talk you in to it. Stand up for yourself you deserve to be happy and if he cant make you happy then its time to finish it and move on. Goodluck.
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