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writes:i have been with my bf for 4 years, if he could he would have sex everyday but for some reason i dont want it as often as we used to, if i say no he gets really angry and i often just give in to keep him happy. Is it wrong for me not to want sex as often as he does? It ruining our relationship and i dont no what to do as i love him to bits. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): I would be getting angry at him getting angry at you for not having sex all the time with him.
Instead of getting angry at you he should be trying to turn you on more or compromise- like all the others have said- find a happy medium.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): you need to find a happy medium, myself and my girlfriend went through this same issue and we discovered that sex is not necessary all the time, and we are completely happy just pleasuring eachother about 80% of the time and now only have sex probably a few times every couple months, trust me... your sex life will be better if you find a happy medium.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): its not wrogh or anything to want to keep it intamit, but if your boyfriend really loves u he wont force or pressure u into having sex all the time. its your decsion. if u really dont want it just leave the room and come back when hes asleep so u dont have to do it all the time with him.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (30 November 2009):
 there is nothing wrong with not wanting sex as much as him. Sometimes it's better to say no and you wait a little longer for great sex, sex isn't usually great unless your both into it. Instead of having sex, you could just touch eachother, you don't need the same amount of energy or willingness and you can still pleasure him.If he loves you then he should be able to go a day or two without sex and be fine with it. But relationships are all about compromise, so you shouldn't stop having sex altogether, that would be selfish, but it's just as selfish for him to always want sex and have tantrums when you say no.good luckxx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 November 2009):
No, it's not wrong for you to not want sex as often as him, and if he's getting angry then that's tough. He should respect you, not get angry so you have to give in. If he's getting angry, then he's not listening to you or understanding you, and you need to talk to him about it. Perhaps you both need to experiment a bit more so you can have more fun. It could be that he's not spending enough time on you, so you're losing interest.
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