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writes:I'm falling in love and i'm scared...I've known this guy eight months and I have really fell for him. He knows I like him and he likes me too I know that much!I'm just scared i've been hurt so many times in the past i've been cheated on, lied to, and used. But with him - it's so different I trust him with all my heart and although we are not yet an item we have lately become very close. He's not like any other guy I have ever been with he actually respects me and he is such a gentleman!I'm scared i'm going to lose this or mess it up and i'm trying not to let myself get in too deep because I am so afraid of getting hurt again and with me liking him as much as I do I know it will hurt a lot more than it has done with previous partners. I know I should just be brave and stop thinking of all the negative outcomes but i'm one of those people that just over - analyse every situation to the point where I convince myself that it is never going to work! Some advice please...Thanks for reading, much appreciated!x Reply to this Question
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Hi there... sit, relax, take a deep breath... there... OK? Let's go...
I want you to know that everyday of your life, you take a risk. You get into a car, your drive (or ride) someplace. You proceed into an intersection (another risk)... you go into a store you've never been in before (another risk)... and so on and so on... life is really just a long string of risks, moving in a progression marching across time, from the simple risks (like crossing the street) to the more complex ones (like the situation with your new crush). I would follow a motto here that says you should take the risk that this guy can bring you a little happiness because you really don't know that he is or isn't. Is there a possibility of being hurt? Well, yes. Is it worth the risk? -- absolutely!!
Another thought for you. Don't let other's previously hurtful actions dictate the happiness you can get from a future. They are in the past. This new guy is in the future. I think you should give him a chance... because who knows... he could be the one!
Best wishes!!
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