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writes:okay this is really gonna be strange...me and my cousin have been having relations. he lives in mex, and we go visit almost every summer and christmas break.im 16 ,im about a couple months older,than him.well i know what were doing is very very wrong. and i feel it all the time im with him,and everytime i tell myself,okay this time no fooling around,its still happens! i cant help it hes a great guy.he kisses my hand my forehead and hugs me and i just get weak.i dnt love him,i know that.im sure he doesnt love me either,well aleast not in that way,i mean we talk to each other about our exs,and he gives me advice, my favorite part about being with him is he makes me feel warm,or secure,when we just lying there on his bed,falling asleep togeter,he has his arm around me and my head resting on his chest,i love that,and that makes me wonder, does this mean i just want somebody,idk like a bf?or that i want somebody to hold me?cause i know its much deeper than just having sex with my cousin right? i think he just cares for me. fyi....weve never had real inorcouse, ive never felt right about it,and i think he understands me on that so hes never forced me to.so it was mostly oral ,etc. so what i was wondering was if im still a virgin.i know i sound so stupid for asking this, and im embarrased but idnt know. i still consider my self a virgin,cause we never had vaginal inocouse. so i guess thats my question. please dont judge,ive judged my self already,and i know who i am, im just sorta confused, i think i just had to get this out and off my chest... and what a relief.
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reader, hanz1993  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 ok well, it doesn't sound strange that you have feelings for him because to me it sounds like he has feelings for you aswell.
It isn't "wrong" to have a relationship with your cousin and after all no one can physically stop you two can they? And I don't think there is an actual law against it. The only trouble you might get into if you actually start a proper relationship with this guy is how your family would react. I guess though if you shared strong enough feelings for one another you wouldn't let your families get in your way.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i know if our family findsout,were gonna be in abit of a pickel.and yeah that really scares the hell out of me. well hes gone down on me once, and has fingered me more than a couple of times, kisses me and licks me all over, and ive gave him a few hand jobs,and mostly just rub our bodies together. but never have gone down on him although i know he wanted he too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): Everyone loves to feel loved and secure in someones arms...and since you and your cousin live so far apart, it's not like you grew up in each others pocket, and have that deep cousin like feeling... So, no I don't think you are wrong. I do feel like you may be a bit young for the sexual aspect of things, but I won't judge you. You do need to realize that if your family finds out, there will be some major changes, and some angry people, who don't understand. Keep your head up, and watch out...Best of Luck Sister Sue!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): It might not be as 'wrong' as you think. I'm not sure what state you're from, but there's no problem with cousin relationships in California and New Mexico, but Arizona only permits it when there are no offspring involved.
Check out
http://www.cousincouples.com/?page=states
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reader, hanz1993 +, writes (7 August 2008):
It doesn't sound strange atall hun but what you need to let us know here on dear cupid is what sort of stuff you have done with him as you are very vague you say "oral stuff" well that all depends on your definition of it.
At the moment it just sounds like you both care for each other very much but just as close friends.
Add another answer to this question telling me more about the situation and i'll right back again giving you better advice.
ok?
talk soon then
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