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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello! Bit of a dilemma. I was going out with this guy from work when all of a sudden another (better looking and sexier) guy (who did not know about the first guy) asked me out. I did not give him a reason for turning him down. A few months later there was a department re-shuffle and now I'm seeing the rejected guy every day - but we are no longer talking as such. Must say that I'm a little jealous of the attention he gets from other ladies. Is this normal? He's not doing this deliberately - it's just the way things are. I'm starting to wonder whether I chose the right guy in fact... or is this a case on my part of wanting to have my cake and eat it? Can't have too many pieces of office cake though - otherwise I'll get a really bad reputation! Not sure what to do - I'm a little confused right now if truth be told! Am I a naughty girl?
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reader, Austinalive  +, writes (8 November 2008):
Well the first way to aproach this dilema is dividing it. Don't think of your current partner in terms of other guy, i mean don't compare (for that you said "i chose the wrong one" it's not a buffet girl).
If you don't want to be with this guy, don't. But that does not necesarily means you'll leave him to go with the other, right?
I think you should learn to be alone before starting another relation.
Now, speaking of the other guy, you're the only one that can define what you feel. He might not be longer available for you, but at least you'll have your feelings well set up.
good luck
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