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writes:i don't if i am being silly for liking a guy who is older than me?here it is there is a guy at work he is 22, i thought he was good looking since the day i meant him we talked sometimes as i work in a canteen (the workers do 12 hour shifts and i serve them food). he has always known i was 16 after a couple of months i gave him my number he toke text me his number but when i asked 2 meet up its not a good idea my mym says he is waiting till im 17. but i deleted his number be accident and i asked for it back he said no because there is a lot of things going around at work about us and we shouldn't bother but last night at work he order his food and laughed and joked with me and a mate at the counter but as soon as he is eating he doesn't lok at me or talk to me. i no i probably being silly that a relationship would work at my age but i do like him and i feel that he does but he is too old i guess and i guess i could try talking to him but im a bit scared i need some1 to talk to i so embrassed as every1 i think nos and apperently its obvious coz i go red when i speak to him. i guess i should give up there are other guys later in life i am only young but i am turnin 17 soon in 2wks will that make any difference or is it coz i have a brace that puts him off. i do remmember when i told him i was 16 he didn't want 2 believe it.
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reader, Just a Girl... +, writes (7 June 2007):
 your not silly at all huni!! im 16 and my boyfriend is 25!! Obvioulsy u like him for resons other than just his age! But huni u have to think, is it worth waitin for a guy hu mite not actuallly be serious about bein with u. is it worth the pain??
dnt think that your just bein silly and seriously relationshiips at our age do work. ive been with my boyfriend for 5 months nearly and im soooooooooooooo happy with him.
gud luck huni
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reader, cd206 +, writes (6 June 2007):
 You're not silly at all. I remember being 16 and feeling that guys my own age were so immature and wishing an older guy would pay attention to me. Thing is though, it can be tricky in terms of other people accepting the relationship and the legal aspect of it. Also, and this isn't meant to sound condescending, picture another 22 year old going out with one of your friends. Does it strike you as slightly weird? Generally guys in their twenties and thirties who go after much younger girls are doing so because theyre also quite immature, not because there is anything wrong with teenage girls, just because there are a lot of complications with dating a younger woman so why would they put themselves through that unnecessarily.
Think it through carefully and be honest with your parents about how things are. And don't worry for feeling silly for it. We all fall in love with people who might be inappropriate and in the end we all meet someone amazing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007): You have to wait until you are 18 if you want things to be legal between you two. Yes, the guy finds you attractive. He has flirted with you and everything but don't get confused. Don't be like me. I spent all my teenage years (and more) thinking that if a guy found me attractive and I liked him too we had to do something on the matter. That was just plain obvious to me. And when I saw he wasn't interested I got all confused and frustrated. Later I realized that most men will flirt with every woman they can. Specially if she is attractive. That makes them feel powerful. I suggest not getting involved with this guy. He already told you that he wasn't interested because of your age. Please don't get confused. He will continue to treat you nicely and smiling but that doesn't mean he is taking his words back. Act mature, be nice to him and do your job well. Try not getting involved in his good looks and nice personality. That will only make you suffer. Who knows? Maybe in the future you two could get together. You are not silly you are just a normal teenager.
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