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female
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*u.paloma
writes:Almost two years ago i had this boyfriend and he had sex with so many other women. his penis was slightly smaller than average(but i have had small guys before so no biggie) and everytime we had sex he always complained about something. like when i would ride him he complained that it hurt him or i didnt know how to ride and then always compaired me to his ex's(said his ex could make him come in fifteen minutes). Now i have had my share of men and i always, ALWAYS get compliments on how i ride. I would like to know could i really have been hurting him? oh yeah other points. I could never actually "feel" him inside of me only when we did missionary so could that be another factor that contributed to my bad sex with him? and is there any correct way to ride a guy?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 "i have had small guys before so no biggie"
Classic!
Its about him, not you. Don't stress. Tell him your ex had a much bigger penis and made you come every time within 15 minutes and he'd be questioning how good he was at sex too.
The correct way to ride a guy: back, forth, repeat until desired effect.
Best of luck :)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 May 2010):
 I agree with Chigirl.. it was almost 2 years ago let it go.I'm guessing it's still in the back on your mind and that is why you are asking, but honestly.. unless you made his penis bend in a weird way ( that might hurt) I don't really think you can "ride" a guy wrong without knowing it instantly.I think he had a Napoleonic complex... Him criticizing you made you insecure and in turn you didn't complain about the lack of friction... ( in lack of a better explanation).PS Criticizing a lover will never make anyone better. Showing them WHAT does work is WAY better.I don't think you have anything to worry about.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Maybe you were hurting him. Maybe your pelvic bone was digging into his, maybe you were putting odd pressure on his penis, maybe your technique wasn't what he liked. Who knows? Obviously he never corrected you to direct you to do what he liked, so I guess we'll never know. I am a bit confused though, why is this an issue now? If you broke up that long ago, does it really matter anymore?
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Honestly, sweetie, I don't think this about you. I think this is a HIM thing.! What's correct is what feels good to you both. There is no "right" way. It's what feels right to both of you. Some guys say they have all these conquests to their credit to over compensate for their actual lack of experience, so don't be fooled by the numbers game.It is WAY outside the scope of common decency for anyone, male or female, to discuss their "number", btw.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 It was two years ago so why do you care what a an ex said? He doesn't sound like a nice guy, comparing a gf to an ex is the most offensive and dishonourable thing a man can say I think. He was rude to you. And most definitely had a compensation issue with his small penis. Trying to make YOU feel bad in bed so he can act as superior in the bedroom despite his size. To all men out there on the smaller side: no offense.
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