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writes:Ok, so I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and it's been pretty serious. But recently he had a family reunion and I met his younger cousin and we just hit it off. Ever since I met him I can't stop thinking about him, we exchanged cell phone numbers and we've been talking ever since. So what should I do? My boyfriend is amazing, and he truly does love me but over the past few months I haven't been excited to go see him, I don't miss him when we're apart and I don't think about him all the time. And this was even before I met his cousin. He keeps talking about getting married and taking the next step but I honestly don't think he's the one.......what should I do? Pursue it with his cousin? Or just stick with my boyfriend who is amazing but I'm not sure I really love him???Help Please!!
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reader, vba67 +, writes (13 July 2009):
You are between a rock in a hard place. Someone's feelings are going to be hurt from this situation (most likely the boyfriend) and it will definitely cause some harsh feeling between the two cousins and their families once your boyfriend finds out that the two of you have been communicating with each other (He may feel betrayed by his you and his cousin).
One things for sure, do not let anyone pressure you into marriage unless you are ready and truly in love with that person. Sounds as if your boyfriend is moving a little too fast (which can be a turnoff).
If you are interested in his cousin, make sure you know something about his character. Be certain he truly feels the same way about you as you do him. Remember one thing; as you get older, physical beauty can disappear and the only thing left is character and you have to live with a person's character for a long time.
Good luck, it will be a very hard decision and I can't tell you which person you should choose. But once you make a choice (after looking in your heart), there will be consequences of your decision. Just be prepared and good luck! There is no such thing as a right answer, just a answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): It sounds like your loseing (if not have lost) the spark with your bf. That feeling that makes us want to be around them every minite of each day and to do anything to make them happy. So its not a good thing to lose... but there could be big family disagreements if you persue his younger cousin. But if you really do have strong feelings (not urges- feelings) for the cousin then its probebly for the best that you dont stay with your bf who you dont love.
Other wise you might end up in an unhappy marrige craving other guys! Remember we only live once!
Hope this helped x x
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