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writes:I am a 16 year old boy and i have loved or should i say liked so many girls in the past but it all ends up as a mess, some of them i did not even tell them, i just carry it along until i see the next one, but now i have seen the girl i love most and i know she kind of likes me and she know i like her but i am afraid to tell her, the question is AM I READY TO DATE OR HAVE A GIRLFRIEND, pls i need help because i am loosing my mind. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2011): You're always ready to date man, you just have to stop pussyfooting around and start asking girls out. It becomes a mess because you take too long to get it done. You spend all your time worshipping girls and building them up in your head too much so you become too afraid to make a move.
Stop doing that and just get on with it. Go ask this girl out and do it soon, don't think, do. If she says yes, great, but I think it would be better if she said no, so you could start fresh and not let this kind of thing happen.
Here's how it should go:
A. you first notice a girl is attractive.
B. you go talk to her (that day or within the next week).
C. you ask her out.
D. you revel in your success or
E. you go repeat steps A-C on another girl until you are successful.
It's not hard so stop making it hard. You will taste rejection but it's not so bad if you do it early and don't have time to start worshipping these girls. They're only people, nothing special, amazing or magical about them until you find one who you have a great connection with.
Look around you, see those guys that have beautiful girlfriends, do you want to know what their secret is? They're not afraid to try and they don't sit there wishing they had a girl they go get one. That it, easy as that.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (16 December 2011):
 You're way too young to be losing your mind or stressed over this situation. You have plenty of time to think about dating- and/or if you should tell a girl that you love her. But make sure you have everything right with your school work. And once/if you do, then you can learn about dating. I will say one thing to you though... with breakups and failed relationships comes experience. Learn from each breakup(and given your age, you're going to have quite a few), and think about what you can do differently- and how you can make yourself a better boyfriend. Women will appreciate you for it in the long run.
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