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writes:So me and my boyfriend have been dating for two months. we met in January, constantly hung out i seriously lost count since then till he asked me to be his girlfriend. within dating him for a month i told him i loved him because i couldnt help holding it in so i just told him. he said he felt the same and felt good in his inner feelings which is why he could say he loves me back. i know its only been two months, i havent really been in a relationship like this for a while. hes my first actual boyfriend who made me feel this way and it seems we're pretty serious. but the only thing that bugs me is that we havent been talking about how we felt, or if anything was bugging us i feel like theres a wall between being able to actually talk about our feelings, its like we havent gotten to that part yet. he tells me he loves me, we see eachother atleast twice a week. because he lives about a half an hour away and i have school and work. am i just over reacting and should just wait for him. i want him to open up to me.should i talk to him about this? i feel really dumb writing this, i just want someones opinion and advice on whats going on with me or us..thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): Not too sure what the problem is, what do you actually want from him, a complete and utter bearing of the soul, that takes a long long time because to be truly vulnerable is a very scary thing for anybody, male or female.
It will take more than two months in any case, why dont you relax and enjoy being in love, it will happen over time, less likey to be a one day sudden event in my honest opinion,
Hope this helps.
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reader, Karing Kris  +, writes (11 May 2009):
 Your not over reacting at all, your obviously serious about him and he seems to be serious about you too. I know a lot of men find it hard opening up especially when there new in a relationship or it may be his first proper relationship i don't know. I don't think you have scared him at all by telling him you love him, but maybe he doesn't yet understand the concept of what love is! Instead of sitting him down and telling him to talk to you try to do it in away that won't feel like pressure ask him silly questions that will start conversation go for walks and do some activities together. Exercise makes you happy everyone knows this and it help you to relax so go for it. good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): i think you should be able to open up to him and if he really liked you he'll respect your view and listen to you and you'll feel better once you've told him how you felt.
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